Nightmares

[Malumaf]

So ever since my dog died, I’ve had nightmares almost every night, (it’s been four months) and I recently brought it up to my therapist and she is getting concerned it’s been going on for so long, and before I didn’t really let it bug me I just kind of dealt with it, until last night while I was sleeping my boyfriend told me I started like shaking really badly and he’s told me that in my sleep I don’t like to be touched which isn’t normal for me cuz I’ve always been a cuddler in my sleep since I was little and I was like that just before she died according to my ex, and idk I’m just wondering if anyone has experienced anything like this or know someone who has or if anyone has any helpful tips or links, idk just kind of frazzled me that it’s become this

[MAS_Nurse]

Hello Malumaf

Thank you for your message. You are having a difficult time. It is good that you share this with your therapist. Make sure you tell them about your recent shaking.

You could also talk with your doctor again.

Four months is not long after all you have gone through especially with your dog.

The topics and pinned posts might be helpful for you.

As you ask, our members may have experiences that they can share.

There is a let bereavement support helpline at

Www.bluecross.org.uk helpline 0800 096 6606

Do let us know how you get on.

Very best wishes

[Malumaf in reply to MAS_Nurse]

I have an appt on Thursday with my works onsite doctor at their onsite clinic and even tho they’re not my regular doctor I’m gonna talk to them about a medicine that my therapist should help with nightmares, after last night I feel like it’s getting worse and I need to just stop it before anything else happens

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Grief and loss are two negative feelings that take time to settle after a death of a person and Pet. With the loss of a dog or cat they are part of you and family. This is very pronounced if the animal has been put to sleep because of a traumatic health problem.

When we lost Pip our first dog it was really problematic, the dog was a Pat Dog for Mental Health and the death affected many at the Day Centre. We went on holidays abroad for a time to get over it , the mood and loss hung about us until we returned and adopted another dog, Pax. We still feel the presence of Pip and sometimes we feel him rubbing against our legs etc and we also see a presence out the side of our eyes.

Personally I cannot relate to your Nightmares, could it be your mind is unsettled regards something that is banging around in your Life at this time, You need to consider life problems at this time as well.

Generally it takes time regards a loss through death, I cannot consider it is to early to stop grieving at your loss, we are all different. However you are where you are the Therapist will help although I can understand the attitude. Talk out your problem like most people would do a human death. You will never be free of that loss, however we learn to live with it and that is what you need to do now, so you can proceed with your Life

Have a few visits to Dogs Trust, put your name down and get vetted for a new dog, possibly a puppy, you will fall in love once more with the puppies blue eyes and play

BOB

[Alliea79]

I lost my four legged best friend about three weeks back and nights are the worst. No nightmares (not yet at least) but have the worst sadness and cry in bed every night. He would always go to bed with me earlier than my husband and would even wait by the bedroom door if I tried to stay up later than he saw fit. He was the most incredible friend in my life. My first true reliable constant support and love. He carried me through more life troubles than I ever imagined I could face as well as physical pains such as migraines. I credit so much of my life to his love and companionship. Life without him has me learning a new type of normal that comes with so much discomfort. I don’t have any wisdom to help you but I advise you to be gentle on yourself and not have a limit to the time that is “normal “. Continue to accept help and I am sure your pup left you a better person for having experienced that unconditional love ❤️

[Malumaf]

Update to all that replied to this (thank you btw) I got diagnosed with ptsd today and got prescribed a specific ptsd medicine and got a nightmare medication

[Spgsamuel]

Buy a dream catcher, they work its all going on in you head. I have nightmares all the time but it started with sleep paralysis I used to see corpses and hands touching things like I was awake it kinda sucked. Sometimes people stand around in my room and I look at them For a long time after my neighbour died I could hear here whispering fast to me all night like she was talking in tongues. I hated that. Sleep disorder and death seem to have a lot of spiritual connections they heavily feature in nightmares after all. I realise its a burden, but it should pass many people love their pets. Try a dream catcher I know its tacky but its a trick that can help like a crutch.