Infidelity, relationship dilemma help

[Wannna-bee-yogiii]

Pls suggest me solution my following problem-

I have a 2 yrs long relationship with a girl.... everything was going nice. 1 year ago she shifted another place for study in college. Gradually her behaviour started change, her phone always busy nd she started ignoring me...but she never confess about this new person in her life ...she always said she love me and that person is just friend.....but she started hiding her phone when we met....nd her behaviour changed a lot .....I saw some pics of her with that person going alone on trips at hill station and all..... finally she confessed that she fall with that guy....but that guy was not giving her any surety of marriage (in Indian society it's a big concern) ,but I was committed to marry her even met her parents also.....she confessed that she committed mistake and now she want to come to me......after some anger I told her that okay I am ready to restart relationship with her.....But her behaviour never changed she always with in touch that guy....she told me that she is using for that guy just for her work .....but I felt that she was using me also for marriage purpose coz I have a secure career with descent job and that guy is unemployed......I gave her many chances but every time I caught her with that guy......but she saying that she love me......I love her very much and don't want to lose her....I went in depression due to this and taking medication....what should I do? Pls guide

[Hidden]

Wellcome

Sorry she seems to have moved on, She is still seeing the Man who she seems to have had an Affair with and still meets up with Him

She is playing you along. Understanding how India is, regarding relationships and marriage this relationship seems to be problematic and your life could be affected by this three corner relationship. Personally, I am in the UK Christian I would be away, I would have lack of trust. Remember when trust goes love will soon fly out of the window. Have you considered how the relationship may go if the deceit you are feeling carries on, or if you ever have those doubts.

You live in a different type of Society than here in UK. You live in that Society

BOB

[Satsuma in reply to Hidden]

Spot on Bob

[Adrift_and_Defunct]

Absolutely spot on Bob

[Hidden]

It’s very tempting sometimes to tell people what they want to hear but that is disrespectful and unhelpful. I think the previous comments are 100% correct.

Her actions are not matching her words. I think she has moved on and you need to as well. As a regular visitor to India I understand how complicated relationships can be culturally but your health and wellbeing are paramount. You will most likely grieve and feel intense pain for a season. Grief is a price of love. I think though one day you will look back with hindsight grateful you didn’t accept the good at the expense of the wonderful. Rick

[sweetiepye in reply to Hidden]

Very well put. I'm so glad you mentioned health as that seems to be deteriorating already. A small amount of pain is better than a lifetime of pain. Pam

[Wannna-bee-yogiii]

Thanks for ur support guys...this platform is awesome....there is no one except this platform to put my feelings out....yes I am trying to come out...next time I will not fall in her trap.... actually I am emotionally very sensitive and she is taking advantage of it only....