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[Dwaindewalt]

Hi I need help for my 12 year old daughter who has started with anxiety and depression she was a happy girl at school and very clever but now can't get her to school she hasn't been for about a month trying to talk to school and they suggest Carm,s but takes such a long time to get an appointment I also have anxiety and depression and don't know how to cope with it

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Hello Welcome

I understand you have talked to the School of your Daughter ?

May I ask if you have talked to Her and asked regards, Why she is feeling the way She is, could it be that She has been bullied or not getting the support She needs ?

Many Schools still in the UK try and down play attitudes of Bullying, hopefully this is not the case ? You need to consider any form of implication that is causing your little girls problems. If She is not wanting to go to school and not it has been more than a month, the danger is a president has been set, this will become more problematic and education will fall behind.

With regards your Mental Health Concern, is your worry set against that of your daughter.

Although in some cases, problems at home could be a problem and that may need to be addressed.

You could try MINDFULNESS Relaxation Technique, a book can be purchased from Amazon for around £7.00. This technique does include other techniques you can try.

Sometimes Children can also pick up on problems in the home, this needs to be addressed if this is the case. Also this in turn can be problematic with Parental Duties and expectations, for example Parental concerns if the child is not doing well in class. As you can see this can result in a perpetual circle of negative activity. Try and break the circle.

You will also find further information and support in pinned posts. If you need support we are here to help

BOB

[sweetiepye]

Children tend to follow their parents behavior. She may be taking on your reactions to the world. I wouldn't want to advise you concerning her issues except to suggest you see a Doctor concerning yourself. If she sees you in control and taking charge it will give her another choice in her behavior. I commend you for taking this seriously and trying to get help for her. I hope you follow through for both of you. Keep in touch and let us know how things are going.. You don't have to be alone , we offer support and care. Pam

[Stilltrying_ in reply to sweetiepye]

Tough but accurate response sweetiepye. You don't mince your words and I think that is a good thing.

I agree that children copy parents. They both need help but as you rightly point out the parent needs to get help for herself first.

[Stilltrying_]

I agree with the other posters. It is tough for you when you are dealing with your own issues. CAMS will help your daughter but as you say there is a bit of wait for an appointment.

I've read your other post and I sympathise over the lining of your stomach issue and agree with Bob that milk or a similar medical product called milk of magnesia ( but don't take too much of it, just one spoonful) may be able to help with your condition but best port of call is your doctor or pharmacist for this. I had not heard of injections before but Bob's idea of that seems like a good one.

Gemmalouise x

[MAS_Nurse]

Hi Dwaindewalt, I would just like to add that the school nurse may be able to help and support you with this difficult situation. You should be able to obtain contact details of the school nurse from school reception. Also, the following websites may be of help to you to provide you with some more support--

Refusing to go to school-Mumsnet

Mumsnet-com/child/refusing-...

Parents Guide to support-school refusal-Youngminds

youngminds.org.uk/...help/....

Please stay on this supportive forum where you will receive help from other members. Take care and best wishes.

[Olderal]

Its very difficult for anyone to cope with, whether they have anxiety or depression or not, but I'm sure you will.Don't over worry about it, teenage girls ,in fact all children while vulnerable ,are also amazingly resilient and your daughter will probably come through this with no long term effects. From what I read this sort of problem is almost an epidemic for teenage girls ,but its still one you don't want.

However you obviously have to give her all the support and help you can and actively seek all the advice you can from medics, family and friends. Most of all talk to your daughter and keep her informed of who you are proposing to discuss her problems with. There may be people she does n't want to know about it and you should respect her wishes.

This may be an opportunity to get even closer to your daughter, so that you understand more of each others problems , which can only be a good thing. Fighting your poroblems together will give you both extra strength.

If you or your daughter use social media sites be wary.My personal opinion is that the "epidemic" and social media's rise are very connected. You don't want to ban it, or even to restrict it. Just make sure that your eyes and your daughters are open to the fact it should always be taken with a pinch of salt . I don't belong to any. I doubt even Eistein could have told anyone anything interesting or worthwhile in the number of characters allowed in a tweet so I'm damn sure no one else can.

Olderal