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I cried my eyes out yesterday for about an hour and a half because it suddenly finally struck me that I’m not going too get too see my sisters ever again and that’s something I really can’t deal with, especially when I have done nothing wrong.

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Why aren't you going to see your sisters ever again? Have you fallen out? x

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I fell out with my mum, so she won’t let me see my sisters xx

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Oh dear. Well it certainly won't always be the case as when your sisters are older your mother won't have a say in it. Are they very young now? x

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They are 2 and 3 years old xx

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Is there any possibility of patching things up with your Mum?

What does your Mum think you have done that she should punish you like this?

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My mum attacked me so I will never forgive her for what she has done, I just want too see my sisters

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What exactly did she do?

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She beat me really badly

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I nearly went blind in one of my eyes it was that bad

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Did you go to hospital

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Yes I’m still in hospital now because of the mental effects this incident had on me

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I have spent the last month in hospital and this attack happened around 6-7 weeks ago

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So - are you saying you didn't report the attack and -

You didn't go to hospital or the GP with your physical injuries?

So therefore you haven't been seen by a Specialist in an Eye Clinic ? I think you should get your eye checked out.

You really needed to have physical injuries from an assault seen and recorded by a doctor straightaway.

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Then you must involve a Social Worker and ask hem to help you to see your sisters in a safe , neutral place.

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Sade

Are you still on Mental Health Ward ?

BOB

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How old are you

In what context are you unable to see them ?.

Dependent on age no-one can prevent you from seeing them. Do you live at home with your Mam, or is your parents separated, and they live in a different address, or visa versa

BOB

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I’m 19 and I can’t see them because they live with my mum and she won’t let me see them ever since she attacked me and I know she won’t even again because she hates me

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Why does she hate you so much

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She’s just a horrible woman

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That's a bit strong - in what way is she horrible

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She just been a bad mum that’s all

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In what way?

If you are in a hospital due to menatal ill health which is due to severe beating by your mother - why are your sisters still with her?

Why haven't Social Services and Police taken your sisters into care?

Have you told the hospital the whole story?

Please call a Domestic violence helpline, the police or Childline.

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The police don’t know who attacked who and social services are involved in both sides but they are being quite useless at the moment

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Was it a fight then? Is your Mum injured?

Was your Mum taken to hospital?

Why are your sisters still with her?

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No it wasn’t a fight she held me on the floor and attacked me but she did get a few injuries from me trying too defend myself from her and no she didn’t go to the hospital because she didn’t need too and I really don’t know why my sisters are still with her

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Are you in UK

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Yes

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This is the Childline number:

0800 1111

You could have a think about phoning it.

The website says you are in control and you can speak anonymously if you wish.

How concerned are you about the well being of your sisters?

Is your Mum on her own with them when she drinks?

If you report this they will most likely be taken into care.

Have any of the neighbours noticed what's been happening? Do any of the neighbours help your Mum?

If you've not been around for a month because you are in hospital - can you know for sure what's happening now?

Could you phone Social Services now and ask for an update on present situation at home.

You may also wish to ask to see the Hospital Chaplain. Sometimes they can help. An independent person to speak to freely in confidence can be a great help.

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Hello Sade, what caused Her to attack you ? Why the Hatred ? My Mother is was a nasty person. i never see what is left of my family ?, now, I do not even know where my sisters live.

They are ten years younger than me.?

How old are your Sisters ?. Parents can be so cruel. Whatever the situation She is also not been understanding to your Sisters needs and possible expectations

BOB

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She had a bit of a drink and she gets violent when she drinks and my sisters are 2 and 3 years old

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Where are you living at this time.

BOB

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I lived with my father

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sade

You have been posting for a month - since you got an ambulance and went to a&e because of yourself.

You have since been in a hospital for mental ill-health saying it was the place you needed to be.

Why haven't you mentioned your Mum before or your (very serious) physical injuries ?

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I have mentioned them just not on here as I didn’t feel able too talk about it

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How do you feel now that you have shared this ?

People on here want to help.

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I feel abit better knowing that other people know what happened

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That's good, it helps to talk.

Sometimes things are too upsetting to keep in and we need to 'offload'. It really is a tough time you've been through, very tough.

Trying to reason with someone who's been drinking , pleading with them or arguing can be exhausting and lead nowhere, sadly.

Best to keep out of the way and pray for them, I think.

It may take time, but I would like to think you can work through this somehow with the right help and support where you are.

Your Mum has problems she needs help with - but not everyone seeks help.

If you concentrate on getting well and trying (through the right channels ) to find out that your sisters are ok. I would insist (politely of course !) on some official help with access to your sisters in a safe place. Try the hospital Chaplain - see what they can find out for you.

Remember - you are Precious we all are.

God Bless x ♡

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Thanks

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You're welcome Sweetheart.

You just always remember that you and your sisters are very Precious, Beautiful and Loved.

It should just be a matter of time till you get the right help to arrange for you to see them - hopefully not too long.

xXx

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Sade

Are you still in Mental Health Hospital, or have they discharged you ?

What is your situation at this time ??

BOB

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I am still in the mental health hospital

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Sade

How are you feeling Health Wise now. Where will you be spending Christmas ?.

Regards your Sisters, they are still so very young. Can your Father not intercede with your Mother, regards your visits.

Is He not concerned regards your two young Sisters.? Also your Mother drinking and the violence towards you. Is it because you are ill, the reason your Mam does not want you back

Do you get any visitors on the Ward, so you have someone who interact with. ?

You mentioned, your Mental Health have they explained what is causing your problem.

Are they going to help you find somewhere to live on a later discharge ?

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I’m doing ok but I’m still very emotionally unstable and I’m not sure if I will be spending Christmas here or not and they are only half-sisters so have nothing too do with my father,my mother has always been a drinker since I was born and she was violent towards me after I told her about a situation that had happened and she didn’t believe me and decided too call me a psychopath and I don’t really get any visitors I just keep myself too myself apart from interacting with the people who are here. They have diagnosed me with having anxiety, depression and emotionally unstable personality disorder and yes they are currently in the process of trying to sort out accommodation and benefits for me

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Sade you will most probably feel much better when they eventually find somewhere for you to live. You can then control your own Environment. So after Christmas you will be able to start afresh and hopefully move on.

Christmas when we are not well can lead into situations that are best avoided. You will have Christmas and New Year in hospital, however they do celebrate it, many hospitals may have parties and can be quite good fun. I know here they have entertainment etc. The same happens in halfway houses they may ask you to go, however that may not be the case.

These sites are also here if needed.

BOB

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I will say that your mom has a drinking problem. She needs to get help herself. I agree that your little sisters could be in danger. I know many children who die to violent parents. I think the sisters should be taken from her. For their own safety. This is not your worry. You can not take them away. It is the social service and the law's job. I get very pissed when I hear of parents abusing their children. I lived that life myself. I am on your side, honey. I know exactly what the effects of abuse do to children and others, I was a victim myself. I had a loving mother. She is the best ever. I had a violent father. I was 14 when I became a severe Anorexic. I am now 56. A lifetime of mental illness. I sought treatment six years ago. Forty years of hell with Anorexia. I am now recovered. I feel your pain. The feel for your sisters. Back in my time, we didn't talk about abuse. We just didn't. Now in your time, it is very known to everyone. I had repressed every memory of my childhood until recovery. Two years ago I begin to remember it all. It was time to heal my mind. That was why I became ill at 14. My father not stepfather. My parents were married forty years. My mom is 82 and dad died at 66 years ago. Dad did not drink or do drugs. He was just violent. I saw butcher knives to my mother's throat. I have seen a loaded pistol for forty years held to her head by dad. She was a saint. Did she deserve this abuse? No way. I was physically abused by him. I had two sisters and one brother. All four of us children and my mother suffered for years by this beast, my dad. We all were raped by him as well. Honey, these memories were all locked up in my head until 2 years ago. I was 54 when I begin to remember it all. I suffered from Anorexia at 14. That was to control my world. Anorexia is all about control. I could not control rape and abuse. I could control my food. I have almost died many times to Anorexia. The memories are horrible. I take a small dose of Zoloft to control Anorexia and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. This was all caused by my violent father. Those sisters should not be anywhere near your mom. I know what a parent is capable of. I have been there. You take care. Reach out to others and share your pain. Merry Christmas. We all love you.

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I’m sorry to hear you have been through so much but am glad you have managed too get help and thank you for you kind words, merry Christmas too you too and a happy new year 🎉

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Your story made me cry, I just want to send you a great big hug. What u have suffered is heartbreaking.but you have come through it, just remember you are a lovely person and all you have gone through has sure made you a stronger person ... Keep well and keep posting this site has been a lifeline for me . And we are all here for each other Take care and keep strong love Sheila xx

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Thank you so much. You stay strong too.

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Sade I just want to give you a great big hug , I really do, and you are so brave for reaching out on here, and believe me you will find help and advice on here , it's been my lifeline..you just concentrate on getting better sweetheart and get all the help and advice that you deserve.take care love Sheila xx

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Hi Sade

How are things?

Have you any news of your young sisters? Are they ok? Are they safe?

Hope you are recovering xx

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I’m doing the same still and I’ve heard my sisters are doing fine and well, but they are still living with my mother

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Do you know if anyone from Social Services or a Children's agency is supervising your Mother?

Also, are you making any progress in someone arranging for you to see your sisters?

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I’m not sure about social services but I have been told that their is a possibility that when I get out of hospital I will be able too see my sisters

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That's brilliant news - but possibility? ? Make sure you get this confirmed as a definite.

Also I would not go to your Mother's. Well, not alone anyway. Not without some official person. A neutral witness, who will ensure your safety.

Did you try the hospital Chaplain? Something to think about. No need to answer.xx

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