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[scarf998]

Hi!

I’ve just joined this group, I need some advice on stopping stalking certain people from the past on social media. I just really can’t seem to stop and it has such a negative effect on my mental health. Does anyone have any advice on how to stop? I’m really struggling.

[sweetiepye]

Understand I am just guessing. I suppose you stalk because there is something about the person you like or you want them to notice you. It suggests low self esteem to me. You must realize people are put off by their stalkers. They dislike and fear them . If I had a stalker I would immediately stop using social media. As for you stopping this stalking...it isn't good for you either, it prevents you from having a life of your own, it makes you feel pathetic. Why don't you get rid of all social media for 6 mo. and then see how you do. One thing I do know about this kind of behavior is it escalates so it's smart of you to try and overcome it now. Keep in touch and we will try walking with you through this. Pam

[fauxartist]

why are you stalking people....it is a not something anyone likes having done to them. Is this a power thing or a control thing for you. Are you in therapy for this as people here are not professionals and are not qualified to help you with this. I would recommend you seek immediate professional therapy to help you with this as this type of obsession can lead to dire consequences for all parties involved.

[MAS_Nurse]

Hi scarf998,

I am not sure this is the forum to get the kind of help you are asking for. We are not experts. But I do think you need to consider the motivations behind your behaviour and why you are obsessively pursuing this behaviour. I wonder if this article may be of help: bbc.co.uk/newsbeat/article/...

Cyberstalking: theguardian.com/uk/2011/apr...

I do not know if you are based in the UK or not, but in UK law definitely stalking and I think cyberstalking is a criminal offence: suzylamplugh.org/Handlers/D...

You do need to get help to stop this behaviour as you are not only a risk to yourself but at risk of causing harm to others too. You could ask for a psychiatric referral from your doctor.

Hope this helps.

MAS Nurse

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Scarf

Generally on Facebook I know for a fact you can be reported and stopped from Stalking.

They can block your computer also your email

I know that Stalking in the UK on the street etc can be against the Law and also can cause serious consequences between the Stalker and the Stalked.

In the seventies I was engaged to a Woman who did Stalk me and it was not only unsettling for me also family and some of our next doors. The relationship had ended and the stalking went on and off for over a year. Eventually I was forced to arrange a meeting, several times until I was able to break free. My family were not understanding and eventually they were going to call the Police

All I can advise on the Internet you block yourself from using Facebook or Twitter for a time Stalking can become a habit forming problem. Consider if you are unsettled by this how do you feel the Stalked must feel. On occasions it can eventually lead to violence if you try and arrange a meeting. The Police can become involved and it can become very messy All Stalking is a punishable offence !!!!!!. Talk to your GP to explain your problem there is a treatment that may help

BOB