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I'm 37 I live at home with my mother and little girl she is 4. I love my mom but do not want to be like her. I don't work, lately I have gotten to tire point that I don't even leave the house. I sleep til about 1 ir 2 pm everyday. I don't clean, I don't cook, I don't do anything. I want to, so why don't I? I started a successful mommy group and have not been doing anything with it. I was with my daughter's dad for 7 years, and recently we broke up altho it wasn't the first time it definitely feels permanent. it's for the best so why does it bother me that I have no one? I mean not like I need a guy but he Jay seems stop fine with it and never sees our daughter which is the usual but still. he's an alcoholic which I stupid by him thru rehab, black outs, and all the junk that goes with being with an alcoholic etc.

im way too fat and I know it and I hate it. I have done those hcg injections twice now, lost weight felt great in every way but gain it back and then some. I feel lazy, tired all the time, I have alopecia areata AGAIN for the second time in my life, the first was 8 years ago. I stay up way too late, I don't DO anything. I feel like a lousy mom for being this way even tho I am told im a great mom and my kid really is amazing.

I feel like this had already gotten off track and I can't remember points I wanted to bring up...

I have zero motivation, I feel I'll NEVER do anything with my life and that I have wasted it and my youth and potential. I have only.I've only one or two friends. I used to be cute, popular, funny,smart and so on and I used to like me so what happened?! I love jesus and have signed up to do volunteer work but i never show up.

I cry thinking of how grown up my little girl is getting.

I haven't shaved my legs, stress my hair, painted my toenails or done anything to feel good amour myself. in fact I don't even wear makeup on the rare occasion I leave the house!

I dunno if anyone can help but I guess I needed to vent......

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Hello there.... (it would be really great if you could use some kind of name/pseudonym so we are not chatting to a blank ________:-) ),

Welcome to our supportive community. Hopefully, you will find folks here are only too willing to come alongside you and share from their personal journeys and experiences.

You are obviously having a difficult time right now. Venting is ok, but unless it is a catalyst for change, it can be difficult for us to know how to help you. You seem to put the finger on a number of issues, that you know you need to address, but maybe seem helpless to do so. Have you spoken to your doctor or local mental health services, as there could be a range of therapies, including medication and talking therapies that could help you move forward?

Do check out our Pinned Post section for free mental health guides, international crisis support helplines: healthunlocked.com/mental-h...

Ok folks, over to you, can you give some suggestions and support to this new member?

Keep in touch!

Best wishes,

MAS Nurse

I don't have a huge amount to say today, but I grew up with a parent who was alcohol dependent, so I have understanding of the struggles associated with that x

Sweetie, Have you thought maybe you might be more than just down in the dumps? You do need to see your doctor for an assessment, and let him help you develop a treatment plan.

i am sending Best Wishes, and comfort to you.

You need to consider and learn to adapt to your Depression if you learn how to approach your disinterest in life you can also handle your problems in a positive way

Consider talking to our GP regarding your concerns, make a double appointment and take a list of the problems you explain above.

Do you feel the problems began after the birth of your Daughter, sometimes similar can happen and that can be approached at the same time, both problems inclusive.

In my case my disabilities cause something very much the same and I understand my Wife has to be Firm but kind.

Talk to your GP a course of CBT may help, although most of the treatment will be down to you to control this problem you have. Use the tools given, they will eventually move you onto a better place


you think I'm depressed??

thank you for your replies, I'm.touched that a anyone to

would take the time..

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