Anger

[Saddy1]

I get very violent outrages to my husand smash things up is this part of anxiety? I have no control when it happens. Please help me idont know why I do it I feel like leaving this world right now because I hate myself and what my poor husband has put up with and stills stay with . Even when I say I'm leaving him when it happens what is wrong with me?

[hypercat54]

Hi nice to meet you. We can't diagnose you on here as there are no professional medics just fellow sufferers.

It does sound like you have some serious issues though and I think you should see your doctor and get some medical help. x

[MAS_Nurse]

Hello and welcome Saddy1.

I'm sorry to hear that you are having a difficult time right now. As hypercat54 has suggested it would be a good idea to make an appointment to see your doctor to discuss what you are going through.

In the meantime if you need more immediate help the link below provides some useful contacts for support.

healthunlocked.com/mental-h...

There is help out there so please keep in touch and we will try to support you as much as we can here.

Take Care

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Saddy

This problem is quite common and you need to contact your GP.

Sometimes an Anger Management Course is available to control your Anger and flustrated. Sometimes people get flustered, if things are not done to their liking. Also if you feel not listened to can cause something very much the same

Make an Appointment and a list of cause and effect,

In the UK you can look up charities that deal with Marriage problems, Relate comes to mind. You will find their telephone number in the directory or you could also try CAB or the City Library, they should also have a register with this organisations in

Have you any idea what has caused this problem, it needs to be sorted.

BOB

[Saddy1 in reply to Hidden]

He seems t b the trigger he never listens and works away most of year so everything gets condensed I think. this is the second time this year this has happened. he only comes back at wkend. He says he will do stuff and it never gets done then causing my violent outburst. I also get physical violence towards him I feel like stabbing. Then I go in a downward spiral of wishing I was not here anymore could it be anything other than anxiety? I also suffered with premenstrual dysmorphia which happened regularly when I was having periods that's what they called it anyway .which was exactly the same thing intense rages .I can't understand why he stays with me xxx thanks f listening

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Saddy

Sorry this problem is eating you up. Generally reading above could it be with your Husband being away so long is causing this problem as it seems you have very little time together and when He arrives home you have general stuff to be looked at and He is tired and wants to sit down with you and have just time together. You have very little time just to talk and be together.

Yes your house needs jobs done and yes it will annoy you if things do not get done. I suppose He would get stuff done, He wants to rest after His Week

However it can be a problem that will annoy and upset you and to be honest you need His time with you, You need to make time for each other and that can be very hard to make that time especially when He is awa five days out of seven.

The problems with Premenstrual Dysmorphia will possibly not helping and that may be causing you are great deal of Stress and Anxiety.

What I will suggest is the same above. Although personally I would suggest is not to jump onto your husband with a list of chores to do

Consider time together because of that time apart, make that time for you both if you feel the need to go out do that in the evening or have a nice meal in the evening, get Him to bring a bottle of wine in and enjoy the meal with wine and just talk like you did before.

You both need to breath and relax together. Make a list of the jobs that need doing, although do not throw them in His face when He opens the door.

He needs to be the same as you marriage needs time together, and He needs to understand this time is important to be together. You have very little time together make the most of it

BOB

[Misslee86]

Do u want to be with him?.. I'm asking through experience.

My children's dad would often lie for no reason and I developed a real hatred towards him which would reveal itself a week b4 my period was due, leading to rows and sometimes violent outbursts with me always kicking him out..

Now that were apart we actually get on quite well (for the children's sakes) and no longer feel the hate nor love for him