Severely Depressed

[Take_Me_As_I_Am]

Along with SO many really bad things thats happened to me recently, right at this moment I have to force myself to get myself together to go to a job hiring session because I have to have an income. I have my daughter, car payments (im almost about to have my car repossesed), bills, and in the future we have to move. And working helps my depression. I haven’t been doing any self care, cleaning, and my daughter has been watching me decline.

[MAS_Nurse]

Hi there,

Don't be so down on yourself! Depression is horrible and so limiting at times. Take one step at a time. Make a short list of things you need to do to achieve e.g. Self-care: Have a set time to shower/bath , have all the beauty stuff you need to hand, put some fun music on, or have book to read as you soak in the bubbles, put some tea lights around the bath, get some essential oils, and have a home spa. Make it something to look forward too. Then have an 'Achievement List' and write it down and tick it off. The Ta Da you have done one thing! Do this for things that need to be done, meals, laundry etc., but make it simple, with easy to do steps. Involve your daughter and make it fun activity to do, share the load, and reward yourselves.Then tackle the job thing... break it down into small steps. Make a list of what you'd like to do, and how you are going to achieve it e.g. Check job adverts, get someone to help write a cv, find the contact details etc. Get a friend to help you with this maybe. Meantime, keep in touch with your doctor and mental health team to make sure you are getting all the advice, support, medication and therapy to help support you.

What does anyone else suggest here that could help this dear lady? If you are from the States and have any specific that would be great too.

Take care,

Best wishes,

MAS Nurse

[Take_Me_As_I_Am in reply to MAS_Nurse]

Thank you MAS_Nurse for your kind words. I had to down in some ways because I created alot of problems for myself layely along with my depression. But thankfully some things are being lifted off of me. I did make a list and that really does help! I washed the dishes, made me & my daughter breakfast/ lunch, cleaned the kitchen and dining room! To others that may be a piece of cake but from where I was to right now, its nothing short of an achievement! As I type I’m getting myself ready for a job hiring session. Will let you know how it goes! Thanks

Shan

[Take_Me_As_I_Am in reply to Take_Me_As_I_Am]

I actually rescheduled the hiring session until thursday. After I posted earlier, I took a nap and woke up back in depressed mode. I didnt do anything else until late last night. I had promised my daughter i would take her swimming but the depression and anxiety made me have to tell her we couldnt go. She was upset and I felt bad. I ended up very laye taking her to the playground. It did feel nice to had gotten outside.

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If you are having money problems it may be a good idea to have words with the Hire purchase company and explain the problems you are having, they may allow an adjustment in your monthly payments. They would possibly prefer they get their money over a longer period than repossess and sell on the car to get their money back.

You could also make an appointment with CAB they can advise on ways to get yourself out of the problems you seem to have.

Yes pampering yourself can help and in a way it will allow you to relax and calm any Anxiety or depression you may be suffering from.

What I would suggest however is have words with your GP and explain how stressed you seem to be. I do not know or feel if medications are the best way forward, your GP can make that decision after a chat about your problems. Make a list and that will help you cover all the salient points. They say on occasions that if we have four or five concerns the brain has problems associating and helping you clear each problem the brain can become constipated and you then get stuck unable to relate to each problem.

One way to get over this is take each problem in isolation, cut up each problem into little bites, you then try and sort each bite out then when stuck move onto the next you keep following that route and you will eventually feel the change as the problems become less. Hopefully doing this will help you move on with more confidence.

Everyone goes through bad times, I am no exception, I am sixty eight soon and life still throws a wobbler every now and then. That is life I suppose

BOB

[Take_Me_As_I_Am in reply to Hidden]

Thanks Bob. I did tell them I was having a money issue a few weeks ago. But thats all the information I could give them right now until I can receive a paycheck. Yes tomorrow I plan on making an appointment to speak with my therapist. I’m going to bed right now I will reply more tomorrow. Have a good night,

Shan