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Feeling so down

What should I do?

I feel so alone. I’m a teenage mum to a 6 month old and have no friends. I never go out without my little boy. My boyfriend does nothing and takes for granted that our child has been fed, nappy changed, bottles done etc. He does no night feeds and I am physically and emotionally drained. I know he has a gambling issue that he hides. His money is his money which he wastes and puts nothing towards bills etc. My money is our money which he also wastes. I work and pay all bills, including his phone bill and his car insurance. I feel emotionally minipulated into sharing my money. Everything goes on him, I can’t remember the last time I bought myself something. He is lazy and does no housework and I barely get a moment to do anything as I always have my little boy, nevermind a moment to myself.

On top of this, I barely eat. If I have one meal a day I’m lucky. Not because I don’t want to eat, I just don’t, I don’t know why. I’m so skinny and underweight. It’s really getting me down.

I’m just so fed up, I wish I could just have a break away alone and away from everyone.

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A break, if that's how he treats you then you need to get away from him permanently.

Haven't you got family that you can go to?

Hello Fo26rj27,

Welcome to our supportive community. Well done for taking a brave step out of your comfort zone to reach out for help. As you have begun to find folks here are only too willing to come alongside you and share from their personal journeys and experiences. You are obviously having a difficult time right now, and I'm inclined to agree with 'jimmyjimmy', that you need to consider leaving your boyfriend and the unhelpful situation you are in. This is probably easier said than done. Can you move back home to your family or extended family? You don't say which country you live in, but in the UK getting help from Social Services would be a place to start. Do have a chat with your GP/doctor and Health Visitor as they may be able to suggest support for you. You need to put your health mental and physical, and your baby's health first. So be strong and ask for help from your medical professionals.

In the meantime, do check out our Pinned Post section for free mental health guides, and keep handy our international crisis support helplines .

Keep your chin up, you have taken the first step in reaching out for help from this forum. Keep in touch!

Best wishes, MAS Nurse