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I am living in a very stressful house...

I am Asian, I want to make money and move out but my parents are putting all this pressure on me. I already had a lot of pressure to deal with. I cant sleep at night, My heart is racing when I sleep, I have chest pain. Whatever I do is never enough for my parents. I felt like walking on eggshells at home. I am always concerned about other people's feelings but not my own. My parents are narcissists they never said one single nice things to me until now. And when I was sick they yell at me. I am depressed and anxious everyday...I also have perfectionism if I don't do anything perfect I'll get mad. I don't have one single friend to talk to about my problems, no one believes me. I feel trapped in this cycle. How do I break free...I feel so lonely....not a single person understands me I am up in my head all the time.....

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Hello silentwinterland,

Welcome to our supportive community. Well done for taking a brave step out of your comfort zone to reach out for help. Hopefully you will find folks here are only too willing to come alongside you and share from their personal journeys and experiences. You are obviously having a difficult time right now. I wonder if you could tell a little bit more about your situation for example, are you over 18 years, if so why are you living at home, what part of the world you are living in etc. We don't want to pry, and this is an anonymous forum, so you are quite within your rights not tell us, but it may help us understand your situation, and maybe target help specific to your country, etc.

In the meantime do check out our Pinned Post section for our free mental health guides, and keep handy our international crisis support helplines.

Keep in touch! Ok folks what can you suggest to help this new member?

Best wishes,

MAS Nurse

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Hi just wondering how do you express your emotions, when its stuck in you a long time...? Sometimes I can't sleep I can't eat... I go to a psychiatrist in my area all they gave me is some pills.. I'm just kinda stressed and I think too much..

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What are they putting pressure on you to do? To get married? To look after family members? It sounds really stressful but you're definitely not alone on this forum. Here to chat x

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You know Asian parents likes to see you study but I've been studying so much until I cannot study anymore I already had two degrees. I want. to have some fun in my life..

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Oh so you ARE out of school...that's good... you can treat your parents respectfully and still look for a job!! You probably qualify for many good ones!!

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You need to get out..that's the only answer..nothing to do with your parents..you need your space.. simple. If you stay you won't be doing yourself any good in the long run ..The ball is in your court..

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Ok, will I always go to coffee shop and stuff that's the best I can do right now...

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That's right..do what's best for you..good luck!

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Thanks by the way should you get a job if you are depressed?

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Absolutely..why not?..

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Ok thanks just wondering

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Try meditation it helps

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okay :3

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Try meditation it helps

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Talk with you're family

Get it off your

Chest an tell them

How your feeling

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I cant talk to them. They don't care, they never care. Even strangers care more than my parents. Forever alone.....they only want me to talk about themselves...:(

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If they cared things would change already XD

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Oh my I am so sorry...wish you were sitting across from me here in the coffee shop and let you talk with me.... It sounds like you are out of school because you want to get a job and move out...Are they wanting you to continue with more schooling?? Do you have a therapist of counselor you could speak with? That would be ideal if you could...

Do they not want you to get a job? Knowing your age would make this all easier to understand. Are you of an age where you can make legal decision to move out of their house? If so, maybe there might be some answers to move in with friends, etc while you find a job. At any rate, please, please try counseling. Speak to your Dr perhaps... Best wishes to you.

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Will yeah I'm over 25 I cAn move out but I'm still looking for a job right now No luck yet.. Me too feels kinda lonely in coffee shop No one to talk to..unemployment sucks

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I’m Asian too and I know exactly where you’re coming from, unfortunately Asian parents can be very harsh. My family put a lot of pressure on me too and it drove me to breaking point. At 37 I’m trying to piece my life together after letting my family almost destroy it! Believe me you need to make a stand, right now! Do whatever it is that makes you happy and live your life, because at the end of the day it’s YOUR LIFE not theirs. It will be hard at first but if you let your family continue to run your life and make you anxious, like me you’ll be sat on the foot of your bed, asking yourself why you let them control you for so long and where the years have gone.

Take back control, and live your life, right now!

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Thanks yeah I hate studying so much now I don't even want to touch a novel book. I hate words and I like images And wa. You are still thinking about this issue at 37? Guess you have a long battle like me too. I'm trying to break free and live for myself once and for all:)

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Yes still battling at 37, that’s because I didn’t take a stand sooner! Please don’t make the same mistake as me. Be happy, you deserve to be, we all deserve to be.

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Ok at least I noticed something is wrong sooner! GOOD LUCK to you too

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Why does my mom yell at me for everything and my dad always acted dumb if I talk to him??

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