Relationships

[Taz79]

Well today, I have been blamed for something that I can't remember saying to a friend of my partner. My partner has said that I have said something and caused an argument. I gone on the defensive and said I'm going to sell the house and move, I give up on everything. I've really tried but this is the icing on the cake. Sorry for sounding off, just need it out of my head.

[PNIAuthor60]

No apologies necessary. Sorry to hear of the accusation but why give up everything?

[Taz79 in reply to PNIAuthor60]

Looking back it doesn't seem worth giving up everything. I need to look at my life and get rid of negativity. Thank you for your reply

[PNIAuthor60 in reply to Taz79]

It's also important not to take responsibility for the behavior of others. The person who was allegedly offended should have spoken to you directly, not thru your husband. I hope things work out for you

[Taz79]

Thank you. It meant a lot

[En1234]

Totally agree with PNIAuthor60, this person should have at least had the guts to say to you and NOT get your husband involved. Don't know what was said but could it be possible you've maybe said something in an "off the cuff" , "matter of fact" kind of manner, not meaning to offend and maybe your husband's friend was a bit over-sensitive in how he took it??

If it was me I would'nt be doing things to penalise myself even more, I would be going round to this person and saying to them "so what is it I'm supposed to have said that has offended you so much?". This can be said without sounding cheeky and it would make YOU the adult. Greet the problem head-on and get it out of the way as quickly as possible...

Good Luck!! XXXXX

[hypercat54]

So your husband said you caused an argument - so what? I am sure you didn't do it on purpose if you did. What are you supposed to do about it now? Beat yourself to a pulp or something. Show me someone who claims they never make mistakes and I will show you a liar. x

[Taz79]

It was said in a joke but I have depression and anxiety so don't always see things as a joke