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[rockiette]

Hello I have depression and something like adult separation anxiety. I manage it but sometimes I wish I had a friend to just sit with me. My husband is very ill and doesn’t always feel like talking. My two children are on their own. Nothing has turned out like I hoped for retirement but we have things we need and I should just be thankful.

[MAS_Nurse]

Hi rockiette and welcome to the forum. Please continue to post on here where you will receive support from other members. Do you receive help and support from your GP to treat your depression? Perhaps some counselling could help you as this would give you some help to cope with this. Also, you may like to look at nhs.uk/conditions/generalis... which gives a lot of information. Sorry to hear your husband is very ill. Thins must be difficult for you. You will also find support on carersuk gov.uk/carers-uk. Please remember that you are not alone. Do any forum members have any suggestions for rockiette, please? Thank you and best wishes.

[rockiette in reply to MAS_Nurse]

Thank you yes I’m on meds and therapy. I had to give up my job which is when things got worse but I’m hanging in there pretty well.

[rockiette]

Ps I don’t like the introduce yourself posts... I think people need a specific problem to address it’s ok if no one responds.

[reinagrace]

Hi rockiette i have separation anxiety also, it is a symptom of my illness Borderline Personality disorder, which i have along with anxiety and depression. it comes from fears of abandonment as i was abandoned many times in childhood. I live alone and hate it, and when it's really bad, i can not tolerate being alone. For me , my faith helps- along with meds and therapy. i go to Mass, read Bible, etc. and just try my best to trust that I am not alone because God is with me. Praying for you and all here.

[rockiette in reply to reinagrace]

Thank you, reinagrace. I used to go to Mass and am trying to get myself back. I feel guilty for not going due to agoraphobia and it’s a viscous cycle but I’m determined to start again.

[hypercat54]

Hi if you are retired there must be groups in your area for those over a certain age. I belong to one and attend the games afternoon and the writers group. If you are in the UK there is a national group called U3A (google it).

Just noticed you suffer from agoraphobia so not sure how useful my advice is. x

[rockiette in reply to hypercat54]

I’m in USA our library used to have groups but they fizzled. I’m an organizer so I’ve been tempted to start a group but then really don’t want more responsibility. I keep my grandson four days a week so I’m busy but adult conversation would be good I agree

[hypercat54 in reply to rockiette]

Doesn't your church run any groups? You don't necessarily have to be religious to join. How about becoming a volunteer for something once or twice a week? Anything that gets you mixing with other adults is good. x

[luvmyself]

Hello rockiette Welcome! Just like I have I know you will find a lot of support on this forum. I can relate to how you are feeling. I am 55yo and my husband is also very ill. I am also retired and wish I was still working as my depression and anxiety have gotten worse. I thought things would be better not having to deal with the stress of working but it’s not. I wanted to let you know that you are not alone. If you ever need to talk you can PM me.

[rockiette in reply to luvmyself]

Thank you very much. Winter can be hard. Where I live there aren’t groups to join and I tried volunteering at the hospital but with an ill spouse that can bring germs home. So for now I’ve come here

[Scourt01]

I have separation anxiety also. I am 22 years old and I’ve had it since I was 4 years old. You’re probably older then me but I’m here for you. Just know everything will be okay. Maybe think about getting a dog or therapy dog? Dogs help me when I’m at my lowest.

[rockiette in reply to Scourt01]

I have a chihuahua and a cat. I feel just strange admitting I hate being alone because a lot of the time I need to be alone. It doesn’t make any sense

[Scourt01 in reply to rockiette]

Yeah I’m the same way