Fiance of a very unhappy suicidal boyfriend....

[Bunkerglitter]

My partner cut his own wrists last night during an angry outburst where he qas smashing glasses, accusing me of lying etc. he is very unwell suffering with depression and suicidal thoughts, he's very paranoid and insecure and can become very mean. I really don't know how to help him, I've stuck by him even managing to get him to see a counsillor but he he hasn't gone back.

He told me last night he's felt suicidal for months and that he should be in a grave.

I am falling apart trying to keep him together. please help.

[Westie-love]

Did he go to hospital when he slit his wrists? Unfortunately counciling only works if they want to do it, do you have someone to support you? There are organisations out there to help the care giver as well as the person who needs care, please look into these, keep supporting him, but be careful if you feel overwhelmed, take time out, and do something just for you. Hope this helps x

[doglover123]

Its important that you have someone who can support you. You are doing a truly amazing thing sticking beside your boyfriend and once he gets through this he will be eternally grateful to you. Have you tried going to the counselling sessions with him?

I think its important for you to try and switch off you thoughts when he is firing words at you because you know that that is just the surface and he doesnt mean it. He loves you dearly and the depression has an iron grip on him. But you are keeping him sane

[Hidden]

Hi I think it is urgent that he goes to the doctors and seeks help. Meds and/or counselling should be able to help. Has he ever been to the doctor? He has to want to get help though and you can't make him if he refuses.

In your position I would make it very clear to him that your relationship is at stake and doing nothing isn't an option. Tell him although you love him you can't any longer put up with his anger and meanness. You have to mean it though. Just in case sort yourself out somewhere to go if you need to leave.

If he ever lays a finger on you get out fast. I mean that too. He needs professional help and it is way too much for you to deal with on your own. Things won't get better you know without it. x

[Goldfish_]

Ensure medical contact in place and try the various resources in the pinned post.

There is only so much you can do and you do need to look after yourself

[Hidden]

If not already talk to His GP, make that a positive action because it sounds like He is unstable and not talking to His CPN

If you feel at anytime you need help contact the NHS HELPLINE on Telephone 111 and explain your Fears. They will decide on the urgency and Triage.

Be firm, and kind, not allowing any violence, if that is the case call the Police or the NHS above

[Carcol92]

Hi, I'm new here and don't normally post. but after reading your post I just wanted to tell you to contact your local crisis team. they will help you and tell you what to do when your boyfriend losses control like this. I suffer from bipolar and anxiety, my mental health team have told my husband this on many occasions.

Sending lots of love

Caz xx