I have been thinking about this all morning and wonder what you think? I read something in my book this morning which said:
"You can get the measure of a man by the number of friends he has"
To me, this means if you have lots of friends then obviously you must be a really "great" person. This made me feel really sad today because on reflection I was only able to count that I had 2 friends!!
Last year I gave up alcohol as I knew it was becoming a problem, (big problem) for me and I have heard that when people give up alcohol they usually have to give up certain "friends". I didn't give up any of my friends, but they gave up me!!
I no longer get invited to functions and parties, nights out etc and was told "We just didn't think you would want to come because you don't drink anymore"...I told them I would still love to be invited because it doesn't bother me to not drink. I have not had a drink in months now and am totally comfortable sitting in pubs etc because I can join in without alcohol. (My 2 good friends told me I am a much nicer person, a better laugh and great company without it.....apparently when I drank too much I became very withdrawn, quite cheeky, boring and a pain in the behind!!..Now only your GOOD friends will tell you this!!)
Since this has been said there have been other outings which I have still not been asked to which has saddened me. The intelligent person would not invite a diabolical drunk to an function, this I can understand, but to not want to invite someone because they are now capable of conducting themselves with some self-respect and NOT want to get into a drunken state??? This I cannot get my head around.
In my last place of work, (before I left) I thought I had friends there too until one of them turned on me in the most unexpected of ways and resulted in me no longer working there (you would need to read my first post to understand that one!!).
All in all this year, I have had to let people go from my life and I am left my with my 2 friends, who love me whatever way I am and are ALWAYS there for me as I am for them!!
So to "Get the measure of a man by the number of friends he has" shook me...I only have 2 friends and I consider myself to be a good person. What does this say about me then?
I would be interested to hear what you think??
Just a bit confused and down about this!!