I've moaned about work before but I'm going back tomorrow after a fortnight's holiday and I am dreading it.
The reason is a colleague who has always been cold to me, he doesn't say hello when I arrive and I sit right opposite him. Over the last few months he has become actively rude and aggressive, not physically but verbally. Examples are me passing on a piece of information our boss asked me to and out of nowhere he told me that he "isn't f*cking deaf". Another time I was working on something our boss had asked me to do while everyone else was doing the usual tasks. Not realising I was busy with something else he asked me if I "wasn't bothering with work tonight", implying I was just sitting at my computer doing nothing.
I don't mind him not liking me, I don't like him, but his constant barbs are getting to me and making the office a stressful place to be. Work stress is not one of my bipolar triggers and I have spent a long time trying to make it clear to my employers that my absences are not due to "stress", I can handle deadlines etc as well as anybody, they are caused by acute depressive or manic phases, or changes in medication, that I can do little about.
But his one-man campaign of general unpleasantness is wearying. It's likely due to the fact we are a small team, and when I am taking necessary time off ill it does have an impact on the amount of work others have to do. He is also quite a "man's man", he's a competitive weightlifter, and I'm gay, something no one else has any problem with.
I want to do something about this atmosphere but he's careful to make sure no one else is around when he confronts me. And, as I said, it's a small team and it would cause a lot of unpleasantness if I approached my manager about it. This is the same manager who told me I was being taken off senior roles because he "couldn't trust me to turn up". That's another issue but should I just ignore this guy and hope he stops? I'm building it up in my head into this huge thing and some days it's tough enough just going to work, never mind having to negotiate a playground bully.
Anyone ever experienced this kind of sneaky discrimination? Did you find a solution?