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[Lesley-w]

I feel so down tonight . I feel as though i cant cope anymore . So tearful and angry all the time .

[DMM218 Ambassador]

Hello, welcome to the site.

Can you provide any more information. How long you felt like this? Are you seeing doctor? Do you take meds?

This place is full of people in crisis, heading to crisis, past crisis and in recovery. We are all going through it with you. You aren't alone. It's really important to be able to say how you feel. Talk and we will listen and then support, sympathise and talk through possibilities to get you through this.

[Lesley-w in reply to DMM218]

I have felt down for a while now been taking citilopram for years and propranol . Keep going back to doc they said i suffer bad pmt.

[DMM218 Ambassador in reply to Lesley-w]

So why you on antidepressants if it pmt? I guess your doctor not explaining things to you as your only a patient!

When was last time you saw gp? Have you got a CPN? Ever seen a psychiatrist or psychologist? Have you been offered anything except meds- therapy, support groups?

[Lesley-w in reply to DMM218]

I was put on ant when i started losing my hair about 10 years ago. Was at gp last week they changed pill to see if that would help . Have been for cbt but did not seem to help . I feel alone all the time as family and husband try not to talk about it as they say they are drawing attention to it .

[DMM218 Ambassador in reply to Lesley-w]

Ok so let's not talk about your illness as if we ignore that will be better? That's just wrong.

You need to talk about your feelings. You clearly have had depression/ and or anxiety for years. Now, ignoring cancer for 10 years would be unheard of and equivalent to abuse. So why is your illness any different.

It's time to take this illness and yourself seriously. It's not in your head, you can't pull yourself together and cheering up is physically impossible.

Depression is a physical illness caused by a chemical imbalance in your brain. It's not your fault. You didn't cause it. You didn't ask for it. You don't deserve it.

Sorry bit ranty but the general public are so ignorant and it causes real harm. People kill themselves to escape depression. It's life threatening.

So, you need to accept you have an illness. You need to get the right care and support to heal and recover. Treat it as you would cancer. That's how important you are, how serious this is.

People here get that. We have all gone through it or are going through it. We will support you and help you.

Anti depressants can seem to stop working for no reason- it's something I experienced. It may be that your stress levels just keep rising so they are only effective to a certain point.

Your GP can change your meds to try a new one which may work.

I really think you need to speak to him again. Also ask what else they can offer for therapy. Counselling may be an idea as I'm sensing that you don't feel worthy. No wonder. Those around you don't want to know, gp is palming you off.

You are worthy to live a happy life.

[DMM218 Ambassador in reply to DMM218]

Now see you have changed meds - good, give that a few weeks to settle. But, if your mood worsens get an urgent appmt as changing meds can cause a downturn in mood which may be too severe.

[20Voices]

Hi,

Welcome and I am sorry you are feeling low and tearful today. I am right with you because I am feeling bad today as well.

I am sending you a hug with this message because I think we both need one right now.

I am on propranol as well it was added in with my venlafaxine medication because I was needing a bit of extra help. I see my GP Once a month when I change medications and at least every 2 months when things settle down. He has also been great at getting me other help and not just stuck me on tablets without other support or any explanation as to why I am on that medication.

It is okay to be tearful, if you want to talk about what has happened to make you feel this way then great, this is a good community and very helpful and willing to listen. Even just writing out what has happened can sometimes help as well.

What else other than the medication have you tried?

Do you get these low moods and feeling tearful often?

I never really cried before I had my breakdown and got diagnosed with anxiety and depression. Since then I t is like the flood gates open at times. I find myself crying at sad movies now. I've cried so much at how lost I've felt, at how grief stricken I am at the loss of my marriage even although he moved in with someone else. I've cried at my successes as well. I now know that sometimes it is good to cry and let go of the emotions.

I feel really low today and have had flashbacks, but through the hard work I have done in the past couple of years I have been able to put the techniques into practise and I know that I will feel better tomorrow. I am not beating myself up as I used to do about how I feel right now. I have done my though record, a good relaxation exercise and spoken to people who I know can help me rather than bottling up the issue and berating myself about it. So I am taking the positives from today and planning for a better day tomorrow.

You can do the same.

Take care.

[Lesley-w]

Thank you everyone for your messages a bit better today x