Im tired of fighting alone. in bed very deprezsed on holiday. Cant join.Feel a failure n so alone. ive been depressed since childhood teens , slightly better worse days. im 56 n sans partner. Hope i.can get through next years. Already on.some meds. bit wits end
lots of flash backs past struggles witth despair
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Hi bluefolk nice to meet you and welcome to the forum. This is a safe and non judgemental place to talk about anything which is worrying you. I am sure you will get some replies very soon.
Meanwhile have a look round the site as there is lots of info and many good links. Please also familarise yourself with the guidelines in the pinned posts.
Hello Bluefolk
Have you taken advice from the GP that should be your first action to make that appointment.
You can try Relaxation Technique MINDFULNESS, and Breathing Techniques to calm the mood. There are explanations on the internet.
You will find many techniques on this site, listed on the right hand side of this page.
If you feel at risk you can also call NHS Information Line on tel 111 they can triage and try and help.
The Samaritans can also help you FInd their telephone number on the telephone Directory for your area.
We also can help you and give support, How can we Help You ?.
BOB
Yes tried these things. Gp knows etc. ta
How did ou get on with your medications and CBT ?
Have you tried Diversion Techniques, hobbies or new activities some form of sport or an interest can help you move on.
Do you have any Mental Health Day Centres in your area. These may help you discuss your problems with like minded people and you should make friends. Some centres arrange holidays and night out.
Your Practice should be able to put you in contact with above.
Are you still been seen by a CPN ?
BOB
You're not alone although it may feel like it. Everyone here has experienced the hell you are going through. Some have made it through, most still struggling.
I've just watched a really good you tube clip from another post.
If you are on holiday, if somewhere sunny, just drag yourself outside and find a quiet spot. Being in the sun is a natural antidepressant. So by doing this you will give your brain a bit of what it needs to heal. I know the last thing you feel able to do is going out. But, please do this.
You can sit out in your pjs even as no one knows you. If you just find a nice spot all by yourself then sit for 30 mins to an hour it will help.
Take care x
Some human advice at last. Thank you.
If you get out, look around and post back what you see. I'd love to be getting some warm sun on my skin just now but it grey and raining in Orkney. Though, I might follow own advice and take dogs out. It's good to get wet if you coming home to warmth. X
Fantastic part of the world, very envious
BOB
Yes fantastic in its isolation! TBH its best place for me as health care good and my issues with spending is limited due to lack of high street shops! Still have amazon and eBay tho!
Yes nice and peaceful, we have been up your neck of the woods a couple of times looking at the Neolithic Sites and all your Islands.
We loved all the flowers etc. You are lucky about the shops, on mainland cannot stop spending
BOB
Yes tho if ever up here there's bargains in the charity shops! I do miss trees and proper hills and mountains. But it's so quiet and people welcoming. It's bit like living in the 70's - doors unlocked, kids playing outside all day, everyone says hello.
Ps you not failing just struggling with ill health. As I've said to my friend - be gentle with the mental.
For trauma look into eye movement desensitization- it's used for PTSD - I was going to get it on nhs but therapist ran out of funding before we got started. I do know people it's worked for. If I'm still struggling with my past events I'd get this privately.
We are all human, remember we are all fighting our illnesses. we do not know what your needs or experiences are, We start from our experiences and many here do have different ideas.
Have you any suggestions ??. To help others on this site, your ideas will always be welcome
BOB
Hi. I think BOB and DMM have some good advice there. If you live where you can't go into a backyard for some sunshine, you can try sitting in the sunshine coming through a window. Of course being in nature is better, but sometimes we have to work up to being able to do that. I also have a puppy that makes me get up out of bed, and I've found i do much better if I have a schedule (or list) of stuff to do. But if I put too much on my list, it's worthless as I look at it and say I can't accomplish it, so I don't even try. So maybe you can try to put two or three things on a list and build from there. (I.e. Take a shower, go outside for 10-15 minutes, call a friend)
Kathy
yes thanks to all. Went outside. small bit better.
Cannot get a date
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feeling in a dark place at the moment
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