Seeking a buddy

Hi everybody. My name is Tom. I'm in my thirties. Like many here I have the same issue when it comes to not having friends and/or never having a romantic relationship. I have always been the 'suck it up' kind of person - but I think it's time for me to do something about it.

While I don't believe that having a romantic relationship is ever an option, I think that if I find the right person, I could find a friend to spend my time with. I live in Milton Keynes. And would be interested in someone to maybe watch movies with or do outdoors-y stuff.

Obviously, I'd like to get to know people online first (I'm sure there aren't any serial killers on this forum looking to make a random addition to their body count - but it's best to take it slow :D)

Anyone interested, who is reasonably local, message me

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I'd hang with you especially because I like being outdoors but I'm in Pennsylvania

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Hi nice to meet you. As there are members here all over the globe I very much doubt you will come across anyone who lives local to you.

If you want to make friends and get out and about the best thing to do is explore options locally. I assume as this is a depression site that you have this and are getting treatment for it?

Have a look at Meet-Up as this is a national group who arranges trips out etc. and would be a great place to meet others and hopefully make some friends. There might be other groups in your area like this so have a look online. Good luck.

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Found this for you. There are several of them including a walking group

google.co.uk/url?sa=t&rct=j...

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It would be nice if HealthUnlocked were "regional" (more effective). A while ago a lady was lectured for not being grateful when she complained about her care. She was not on the NHS and had to pay (so entitled to expect a better service). The misunderstanding was rather unpleasant.

Having good friends is extremely important for our health. So I think this post is totally appropriate. Not everyone has a large loving family or supportive partners or friends. Life could change in an instant whether it's bereavement, breakups, redundancy, accident ... unforeseen circumstances and suddenly find yourself becoming more and more isolated.

lilaclil, the social site you mentioned would only be suitable for some people. Say if you suffer from social anxiety, you would not have enjoyed meeting friends in such a "clinical" environment (everyone's expected to be in an "oh so perfect" mode).

If HealthUnlocked were regional, people could get together to offer more practical support. Currently there's only so much we could say (after a while, the words could sound the same). People are soon back to their misery in private.

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Hi I do agree with your superhealer but I am dealing with practicalities. The site isn't regional so there is no point in responsing in that vein.

Also the poster didn't say if the depression was bad or not. Of course this would preclude a meet up group if it was. But if it wasn't then my ideas were good.

I only answered what I was faced with and trying to be helpful. Perhaps you have some good ideas for the poster?

I am feeling a bit criticised now, but am sure that wasn't your intention.

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Thanks lilaclil, it is the kindness and compassion of people like yours that have made this forum such a great success. Of course help like yours is practical and essential (sorry, hope I haven't put you off too much). Yes, your ideas are good. I wished I had better suggestions.

Sometimes prevention is better than cure, people don't have to wait till they are seriously depressed before taking action.

My intention was hoping that people who agree would try to persuade HealthUnlocked to consider making some regional support as well (for people who need face to face support). "As well as" not "instead of".

Just my wishful thinking ...

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Thank you superhealer, it is very kind of you to say such nice things about me. I am aware I often give more practical advice rather than emotional support at times, but I am often too detatched from my own feelings to help much. I do try though.

I feel I give my best replies when I can tap into my emotions but sometimes this upsets me too much and gets me thinking about the past when I can't handle it. Or I have great difficulty finding the right words. I want to help though even if I have to resort too much to the great pragmatism which has saved my life so many times.

I greatly admire those like you who can give good emotional support. Still I guess there is room for all of us on here isn't there.

Thanks again. Take care.xx

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I would also hang out with you, but I'm in Bristol!