How can I manage depression, grief and a new job?

[Rhi-Rhi97]

Hi,

I'm new here, I am 19 and I have just finished my first year at uni. 3 weeks into the term my mum passed away after being ill for about a year. I had depression before she got sick but it got much worse. I had uni to kinda hold me together, now that I have finished I am really struggling to do anything with my time. I have started a job waitressing and I am really struggling to pretend to be happy and smile, which is pretty important when waitressing, and people keep asking me if I'm okay. I was just wondering if anyone has any advice on how to get through day to day really, I am constantly fighting the urge to burst into tears at work and I would really like to be able to cope with working as I need the money.

Best wishes

R

[nessie71]

HI Rhi-Rhi 97 I am so so sorry for your loss. If you want to cry hunni ( there is no shame in crying) then you have a good cry and let it all go. You never know you might feel a little better. Take some time for yourself and have some me time and pamper yourself and have a lovely hot bath. We all deal with things differently this is what makes us all so unique, have you been to the Drs?? maybe if you can get some bereavement counselling or just have a chat with your GP. You are much stronger than you think. They say that the first steps are the hardest and you have made that step by coming here and asking for help and advice. Well done for that hunni and welcome to the forum. I cant really give any advice but just take one day at a time and take baby steps. Everyone on here have or have suffered depression in one way or another, we are all here to help with the daily struggles with the depression. I guess what I'm saying is you are not alone hunni and we all understand what you are going through and can relate to what you are saying. If you want to chat you can pm me if not that's fine but just remember we are all here for you. Take care and I hope this helps you a little.

H XX

[blackcat64013]

Hello Rhi-Rhi 97,

Welcome to the forum and thank you for sharing with us.

Nessie71 has provided a very thoughtful response.

On campus support will be available to students through a student's assistance program. Definitely check this out, especially if finances are difficult.

Talking with a trusted friend or family member who can just be there for you can work wonders.

God bless