Looking to understand why I feel so low

[Markcann]

Just admitting how I feel is hard hwo to say I'm struggling how to say I don't enjoy life how to say I really don't see the point anymore

[Hidden]

There is a point to your life. I understand you feel low and like everything is pointless, but you will be ok ☺ Because there is so much to be happy about, you'll find what makes you happy and what makes your life important. Have no worries ☺

[Markcann in reply to Hidden]

Hwo can you say that for sure you have no clue what I am going through

[Hidden in reply to Markcann]

I can't say for sure. But Im going through a LOT of things myself, I tell myself the same things I told you. I mean, we can't live thinking that this is it, all we have is sadness, that doesn't get us anywhere. Positivity at least can get us closer to where we want to be. Life is hard, no doubt about it. Trying to help yourself little bit by little bit will ease the pain, because you will be moving forward ☺ And that's good. You have to want to help yourself. Want to be happy. Make goals for yourself and accomplish them. That's how it goes. I really do hope you will find happiness soon 💜 or at least the feeling of being ok.

[Markcann in reply to Hidden]

Eliot please don't think I being aggressive I just feel I need to gaurd my little peice of ground

[Hidden in reply to Markcann]

I understand.

[Markcann in reply to Hidden]

I don't think I fully do that's why I'm so mixed up

[Hidden in reply to Markcann]

That makes sense. Dealing with depression can make things very confusing. I hope something good comes your way, I really do.

[Markcann in reply to Hidden]

I hope so too

[sweetiepye]

Hello Mark, while I don't understand exactly how you feel, no one does, there are enough commonalties for us to understand and help each other on this site. I get the impression that you are angry and blaming yourself for your condition. That you are uncomfortable talking about your emotions because it feels weak to you and you are used to being in control. I can see why you don't want to live like this, who does, but giving up? Never! You'll get through this like the rest of us do. One step , one day, one minute at a time. If you haven't seen a gp that should be your first step. You need to eliminate anything physical and find out how to get started. Keep close, we really can help and want to. Pam, who has been through this fire.

[Markcann in reply to sweetiepye]

What you say Pam makes so much sense, but I can't go and see the GP please understand that if I go and talk to the GP that's it the house of cards is going to collapse around mei just can't.

[Markcann in reply to sweetiepye]

Thank you what you say makes a lot of sense

[sweetiepye in reply to Markcann]

Something You need to realize Mark is that when you are depressed,or anxious your feelings lie to you and can't always be trusted You could pick out 3 people you trust and use then as a sounding board when you aren't sure what to do. If anyone tries to bully you into taking something then that's about them, not about you. You need to be kind to yourself right now and get yourself back. There is no benefit in being harsh. Pam,

[Markcann in reply to sweetiepye]

I don't have 3 people to trust.

[poppet36]

Hi mark...i know how hard it is...i too find it so hard to express how low i feel and see the point in my life. I just want these feelings to go away. Are you on any meds cos they do help alittle....i dont think i would still be here without them. X

[Markcann in reply to poppet36]

Poppet I would normally go all out attack if I'm honest on what you have just said but I'm trying to see it another way so I'm listening I'm just not there yet my friend I'm not where you are

[Markcann in reply to Markcann]

I'm scared of going on medication

[sweetiepye in reply to Markcann]

Different meds affect different people differently if that makes sense. also they take several weeks to kick in. If a certain med doesn't work for you , your Doctor will make changes . It can be quite a lengthily process finding the right one,but in the end it can be very effective allowing you to feel well enough to get therapy started or whatever your Doctor suggests. It takes courage my friend to face this and find your way back. Pam, who has gone from a lamb to a lion.

[poppet36 in reply to Markcann]

Well im very sorry for trying to help. Theres nothing wrong with medication, you wouldnt have a problem with taking a med for an infection so whats the difference with an anti depressant.

[Markcann in reply to poppet36]

I am just frightened of how they will effect me I didn't mean to sound ungreatful for your help

[Hidden in reply to poppet36]

We all have different view points on medications and we should all respect each others viewpoints. The rate on psychiatric medications working is estimated at 30% working and 30% placebo effect. The difference between taking antibiotics versus mental health medications is that they are pretty much guaranteed to work and don't have a black box warning with lots of side effects. Some side effects in particular in men can put many off.

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[poppet36 in reply to Hidden]

If anti depressants dont work then why do so many people take them and some cant live without them? Also all drugs have side effects even antibiotics. The risks are just the same for males as is for females.

[Hidden in reply to poppet36]

I didn't say the they didn't work. They do for many. But for many also not.

[Markcann in reply to Hidden]

So do we know why ADs work on some but not others ? How do they work ? People suffer depression for all sorts of reasons not just chemical imbalance so how can a physical tablet treat some thing that isn't necessarily physical

[Hidden in reply to Markcann]

Unfortunately i don't think it's fully known. I've been on over 18 different myself. They just don't work for me.

Which is a shame as it'd make things much easier

[Markcann in reply to Hidden]

I really need to find out how they work I basically do trust doctors they haven't got a clue they just guess most of the time and use patients as test samples

[Markcann in reply to Markcann]

Ops don't

[Hidden in reply to Markcann]

Sadly most GPs don't have the training.

[Markcann in reply to Hidden]

Agree totally

[Hidden]

Hey Markcann,

I get it. I was given meds, they sat in the bottle.

But I knew my pain wasn't physical, or a chemical imbalance. My pain comes from rejection. 23 years of marriage, hard work and loyalty and he found someone else. Just like that. Walked out with no warning.

My doctor said depression is the stress from past concerns, anxiety the stress from future concerns and yes you can have them both at the same time and yes it hurts.

Time, for me has been the best healer. But I know why I feel like crap. I am actually lucky enough to have some one to blame!

Really though if you cant identify why you feel the way you do, hey, see your GP and meds don't have be forever, in fact it may not even be meds that you need there are lots of physiological things that can effect our emotions. So long as you make it through the dark space and back into the light thats all that matters. Good luck with it all.

[Markcann]

Thank you

[mdcooper-1470]

I've been off for seven years now and ideal I'm going around in circles never suicidal just a funny feeling in my head I still don't understand it

[mcclelland425]

I understand what you are saying. I will not judge you but I will say to try and keep looking forward cos you never know what tomorrow will bring, you may feel so much better.

I suffer from depression and can not make sense of how unhappy I sometimes feel. Even though I class myself as an optimist ( my glass is always half full ) I still have days when I struggle to get through them .

Please don't give up, you may feel hopeless today but tomorrow may be better. X