Don't really know :-/ is this normal

[Ella_]

Hello everyone, I spoke on here about a week ago. I don't know if I am depressed and anxious. I haven't been to the doctors yet, just a bit worried about going.

I just want to tell you more about how I feel so you can tell me if you think it is a problem. Just feel like I need a chat.

So I'm probably the happiest I've ever been recently married to the man of my dreams have everything I've ever wanted.

Saying that, I never sleep and over think everything. I sit up and worry about things. For example if someone at work was in a mood I'd be thinking it's something that I have done to upset them. When I know it's not really but can't help worry. If I had a missed call from work I think oh no why have they rang. Just little things worry me and get to me. I can't help it. Also I never feel good enough, I think why is my husband with me? Why do I deserve someone as lovely and caring as him?

Me even saying this I feel bad cause I know there are people out there that are worse of than me, I feel guilty about feeling like this.

Also lately I saw my husbands ex from years ago. I'm not a jealous person at all! And I trust him completely, but can't help compare my self to her. She's not like me, and feel she's better and pretty and fun. I keep driving myself mad thinking about how she's better than me.

I know you will probably say go to the doctors, but the thought of talking to someone is worrying me. I've spoke to my husband and he thinks I should go and is very supportive. Just worry about everything.

Is this just normal? Thank you x

[EdanaBrietta]

Hi Ella,

Your symptoms of constant worry sound like classic anxiety symptoms. I had those very same thoughts and worries (I still do on occasion) about two years ago. What helped me was a therapist who walked me through what is called Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). For me it was all about identifying the worry, confronting it, then moving past it. I do this frequently without thinking now, and it has really helped.

I am not an expert, just a life long sufferer of anxiety and depression, but I think you should seek out a therapist or psychologist who specializes in CBT. I really think it would help.

If you ever need to chat, PM me, I'm here for support.

[Fortynfedup]

Everyone is anxious from time to time, but it does sound like its taking control of your day to day. People with anxiety do tend to think everything is there fault and think about worst case senarios in each situation, take it from me, i am very paranoid and think the worst. You'll find that people without anxiety don't think like that. It would be better to seek help for anxiety than possibly become depressed about it, the two do tend to interlink here and there.

Please don't be scared to ask your GP for advice, there is nothing you can say that would surprise them and saying your thoughts outloud to someone neutral can be a great relief.

Meanwhile, enjoy your relationship.

Good luck

[Ella_]

Thank you for replying it's nice to tell people how I feel. My husbands ex is so different to me, small and petit and fun! Just worry I'm boring and tall. I don't worry cause I think he would leave me, just cause it makes me feel horrible and ugly x

[Kittykatxxxxx]

Hi . Good advice given . I am the Same as you and worry about everything except no man of dreams ( boohoo ). Best of luck !!