Confused girl

[Riendzo]

First time posting

I recently lost my dad and im failing to move on😢💔..i don't even know what to do to numb this pain away, it os slowly kilking me😭😭

[Greybags]

I am sorry for your loss. I lost my Dear Mum in mid March this year and will be grieving for a long time. I have so many emotions to sort out, but it seems forever to start to live again. Why shouldn't we grieve for as long as it takes.

[Hidden in reply to Greybags]

Greybags I am very sorry to hear of your loss too. I totally agree with you. I found that being with relations helped me a lot as did the routine of normal life.

My mum died 4 years ago now and even though we were expecting it, it was still a huge shock. I well remember the surreal feeling and the stress I felt. As well as the grief.

My mother was 90 and I was pleased for her that she wasn't suffering any more so my emotions were a bit mixed. I was actually temporarily on my own with her when she passed and it still haunts me and always will. Big hugs for you too my love. xxx

[Riendzo in reply to Greybags]

Yea...i also think we should just grief forever coz we can't hide the fact that they are gone..we just left with memories haunting us

[Hidden]

Hi so sorry to hear about the loss of your dear dad. You have to grieve for him for as long as you need too and there is no timeline to grief. Some people can move on more quickly than others but we are all different.

My advice is to take as much time to grieve as you need and eventually you will start to come out of it a bit. You do coz that's life. I have lost both my parents and it can take a while for the pain to subside a bit. Be patient with yourself and give yourself all the time you need. You are going through one of the worst experiences that can happen to us.

There is a bereavement site on here which should be able to help you as well. Take care. I am thinking of you. Big hugs. xxxxx

[Riendzo in reply to Hidden]

Thank you so much for thinking of me...i just have to grief Lord knows for how long...even if it doesn't come to pass

[WhiteAlice]

Sweeties, you just lost people you love. It's perfectly normal & fine to feel the pain. I'm sorry for your losses. I lost my mom 19 years ago & I still shed tears for her. I miss her whdn I need to talk to her, when I need her advice, when I'm afraid. Here's a big hug for all of you:

((((( 😇 )))))

[AMAC82]

hello, so sorry to hear of your loss, to me grieving is a sign of how much we miss someone. I lost my dad when i was 20, he was a very positive man despite being in poor health for many years, he was in and out of hospital when we were growing up, he gave me one wish before he died which I now do in memory of him - I give blood, if you can turn it around although I miss him a lot it's made me feel positive that I can help other people like my dad. Treasure the good times you shared, maybe a memory book? Did you both have a favourite place or song that you shared? I wish you the very best.

[Riendzo in reply to AMAC82]

We shared a lot of things together and now its hard for me to do those things without him...im only 21 years old...i still need him

[AMAC82]

You sounded very close, do you have other members of your family that you have a good bond with? It's important to build a supportive network. It's good that you have reached out on this site...have you considered therapy to talk your feelings through. Virtual hug.