I don't want to depend on someone for my happiness

I am never happy alone, I feel like the only time I am happy is when I'm in a relationship, then I get heart broke and fall into a major depression. I want to learn how to be happy without someone.

[LoriMS61]

Hi,

I've had a read through of your other posts both on this community page and the Anxiety one. How are you getting on with your hypochondria? Have you managed to stop drinking?

Did you stop taking your antidepressants after speaking to your GP? Have you had the chance to try out any of the suggested actions from others recommendations? I was so sorry to hear of your loss.

How are you different when you are in a relationship?

Lori

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A human is generally a social animal who in most cases wants to be accepted by their peers

Sometimes as well many can not accept any form of rejection. We need to be loved and accepted

Yes it can be very hard to be rejected by the opposite sex and that makes us feel sad and we can become insular for a time afterwards. The secret to this is to understand is we need to mate and sometimes we have put a great deal of our lives with that person and we feel rejected and sad. Your Mental Health may hinder your feelings and expectations

All takes time after a relationship failure and the danger is that we jump into a new relationship to soon, when not ready

Give yourself time and eventually you will by ready to find that new partner.

When I was young my engagement broke down and I was really gutted as I had put in four years with that Partner. I stopped dating for two years or so and took a Part Time Youth Leader course, I found someone new with that interest. That relationship failed although that situation helped me move onto my final Partner

Never rush we can make errors, Heal yourself first and understand what caused the actual breakup. In that way you become aware of what went wrong.

You will find someone when you become educated on what you would want in that new life long partnership

BOB

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Hi I remember being in my mid 20's and I was miserable. I realised one day that I was waiting for a man to come along and make my life complete and I was living with that expectation and therefore not doing enough for myself.

So I decided to live my life for me instead and if it happened in the future then fine, If not I was going to take complete charge of my own life anyway. To this end in the following 3 years I bought my own flat, got 2 kittens, went to Uni, went abroad for the first time, discovered a lifelong passion - darts and started building a life I could enjoy with friends and a good social life. Try it.

Once you are happier and know yourself better you have a much improved chance of meeting someone who doesn't make you unhappy and your relationships have a much better chance of succeeding. x