Suffering from a Break Up.

[Ninjettexoxo]

I feel like I've been used by my ex-boyfriend. He had sex with me and there have been intimations that we're getting back together. We just had a very public and ugly fight and it's really having a detrimental effect on my year 12 studies. I feel like I'm going insane. He's told all his friends and he's so happy and laughing and doing well and I feel so lost and I feel like dying. I've lost motivation to work and I cry all the time now. Help me.

[Hidden]

He used you for sex, you used sex for love. Try establishing a relationship first before becoming intimate. You'll have more respect for yourself and so will the guy. You're probably going to eat dirt on this one so hold your head up and don't let the hurt show. Consider it a lesson learned, and do not go running back no matter what he promises. He's already shown you his character, you be better that that. Vm

[Ninjettexoxo in reply to Hidden]

I'm not strong enough, he deserves hell.

[Hidden in reply to Ninjettexoxo]

Yes, he does, but he'll probably never change. Now, about you....you may not be strong yet, but you can learn to be. It doesn't happen over night and it's usually 1 step forward, 2 steps back. You decide what kind of person you want to be and then you work at it. Never easy, always worth it. Vm

[Photogeek in reply to Ninjettexoxo]

Can I ask what age you are? Thanks.

Hannah

[LoriMS61 in reply to Photogeek]

As she is in Year 12 she will likely be 16/17. At this time in the academic year it's highly likely she'll be 17. Am I right @/Ninjettexoxo

[LoriMS61]

Hi,

I agree with Vintage. But I have a few more things to add. Firstly, Year 12 is a tough step up from high school, and you are towards the latter end of the academic year. I imagine you've already had your exams, and potentially are moving on to the Year 13 material? You need to focus on your studies, instead of wasting your energy on this boy focus on that. If you let him affect your studies you will regret it later in life.

On to the boy. We all mature at different ages, but it sounds like he is very immature. He will be such a small part of your life, trust me. Whether you are going on to uni, to travel or into a job you will meet so many people who will alter your life. He's a part of this stage in your life, and he's not even a good part.

It's understandable if you loved him that you would feel this way. Give yourself time to grieve for what you had, treat yourself to something that will make you happy, invest in your other friendships/relationships. He will bitterly regret losing you once he has grown up.

Stay focused on your end goal, I bet he wasn't part of it.

Lori