Dear self harmers... It's not a necessity anymore.

[isitjustfarah]

It's easy to justify to yourself why you're punishing yourself by self harming. But sometimes there's a voice in the back of your head asking you is it worth it, theres no relief from that stinging sensation, because you know that the thought you had that made you cut, cough, punch or bump will always be there reminding you of what happened that day that compelled you to do such a thing.

Stop picking up your tools of self mutilation and read my post, and answer a few questions addressed to yourself.

1. Is cutting yourself going to let the person that hurt you know that you are in pain? No it isn't, whats the worst that could happen, go get up and walk to that very person and tell them how you feel, tell them what they did but don't tell them what you were about to do.

2. Are these scars and bloody tissues making you proud of who you are? Would you like anyone to see these scars? No right? So stop it! don't ruin yourself just because of a way you feel about some event.

3. Is cutting the only thing that you resort too when in times of distress? If yes, then i want you to read this and then exit the page and search for group activities of your interest in your local area, whether it be sports or a reading group join in and have some fun for a change. Use art as a form of expression paint music bake repeat. Lose yourself in a good book, DIY projects, my favourites are room decor!

BUT - and a big Beyonce one that is, most importantly find yourself someone your comfortable to talk to, me?, a councillor or even God. Look more into your faith and try to understand paths to relief. If your an atheist then find someone on this forum find a friend or even those close around to, someone who does not mind a chat about things that get you down. Me for one because trust me i need a distraction from life.

We are all living a hard life, me for one I'm a self involved introvert with a sister who hails from the same star sign a huge pomona imbalance and a power trip. Oh trust me i could go on... A nephew (more of a brother) who i try to love but seem to boss around thinking its for his own benefit. A mother i love more than anything who recently lost her last brother and the fear of her losing her mother is eating her up in which i feel like a plank of wood useless to the core. A father who I strive to impress everyday of my life (its a rare occurrence when that happens).

Sorry for the long post, if you share any of the same problems then I'd love to speak with you and share our problems. It's best to speak to a stranger then someone who you feel is going to judge you X

Topics on our discussion- self harm, relationships, death, sisters, mothers, nephew, family, love, discussion. (an attempt on trying to get some hostages up on here)

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HI the trouble is self harmers are locked into a negative battle of self hate and can't usually see the issues clearly. If they could they wouldn't resort to self harming. I have never self harmed (well a couple of times in my teenage years) but do understand that it is a form of self hatred and punishing yourself.

I don't have kids of my own and find I do try and boss my nephew sometimes and he is 30 now. He won't stand for it though and puts me in my place lol. x