Many people have routines in their life revolving around their work schedule and other necessary evils. When I hang up my hat and coat at work - I often think how the next time I see them will be when I am done of work and can go home.
If you could fast forward your long predictable day at work instead of 'live' each moment- would you? I think it would be tempting to say yes - but then at the end of your life you may if wished you cherished even the mundane moment.
What do you think?
Hi there. You must be very young, I think. Life is too short to fast forward it. You will find, as you get older, that time fast forwards itself anyway. Month follows month at an alarming rate and a week is just a flash. Take every day as a precious gift many people don't receive. Linger in it and savour all its many moments. Take care. x
Thank-you for your reply Dark Shadow. I am getting to think now that everyday is really a gift. And even the most painfully boring day of doing your taxes, shingling the roof and other tough by necessities of life are special too. Even the most difficult day has a few unexpected smiles at the simple pleasures in life.
My thoughts on fast forwarding. When depressed it would be a great thing as the hours and minutes can certainly drag and there's not much pleasure in those periods. fast forwarding to the next pay cheque also sounds appealing.
Of course when one looks back on any period of pain and stress whether physical or otherwise one forgets much of the pain and you might then regret you fast forwarded through those periods and shortened life.
You're very philosophical for a Monday morning.
Your words ring very true! I am on the fence a little bit thinking if we could skim the events of painfully boring day when you are suffering from depression and struggling to be able to take care of yourself and then press play if we see something interesting might be good at times... But I guess it is good to see things threw because I think many of us would fast forward too much and definatly regret it. I would of fast forwarded every day of my teens if I could- but looking back from my age now I think has horrible as those years are they helped me build my more positive foundation of life today.
Hello, I do not know how old you are I am getting on a bit and my life over the last fifteen years seems to have really galloped along. This seems to have unsettled me to my core, so I would prefer not to gallop.
When I was retired on health grounds, the leading up to that was horrendous. I would have preferred to have in someway to have diverted from that pathway.
When we wish our lives away, we need to take stock on our lives and look to a good, positive way out of our problems taking as little of my allocated life span away from me. This is most times not possible and when Depressed, we try and not make any decisions being always frightened to await any outcomes to the problems I may have. I suppose it is like having a bad tooth, you want rid of it, although you could do without the actual pulling of the tooth.
Personally my condition makes me feel I would prefer to have no part in any decision making and just stay in my comfortable room
BOB
Thank-you Bob. I think you hit the nail on the head perfectly of how you prefer to have no part in the decison at all! Many years ago I went to my father's family village in Scotland. My Dad had passed away and I went to the village because I knew it was something he planned on doing in his retirement but passed away too young and never has the chance.
I went to a church prayer meeting mostly because it was something a lot of the community did together - and I wanted to experience the community basically in memory of my Dad.
Well I was raised in a different Faith and found the denomination very new. They all held hands and took turns praying for their hopes and needs. When it came to my turn to speak I asked the 'God's will be done' and didn't ask for any particulars. The people in the group did not like my answer. But I said to them how do I really know what I need. Maybe I have to go threw a desert to appreciate a cool glass of water. Maybe the man I think I love is not the one for me. And in an odd way it does feel comforting to know we don't have a say in many of the obstacles given to us in life.
I have found the older I get the faster time goes and now seasons seem like weeks. I am starting to panic a bit as time is beginning to run out for me and I feel like the best of my life is behind me. Well it is actually. Now I am starting the home run but do worry about increasing age and more importantly increasing illness and infirmity.
I live on my own and have always been able to cope because of my very good health but now with copd (although mild) I feel age is catching up with me. I dread being housebound and ill and isolated. If I can still get out and have a life that's fine but no one knows what the future holds do they? Bev x
Yes Bev - you are so right. I recently started to save for my retirement and most of my investments are locked in to age 70. And I think what if I never reach 70 and all my careful saving is worthless to me.
I also dread being housebound and isolated. I am 40 now and have a few plans for my retirement on things I would like to do. I am afraid I will be all alone without anyone to help me get to the doctors or pick up groceries. Sometimes I have felt like that in my 30's. My metabolism has changed recently and I am wondering what is next.
Hey Lacey don't make yourself old before your time! At 40 I was too busy running round and living my life to worry about being old or retired 
It's good to plan for the future but don't forget to live in the present, otherwise that will fly by and you will miss it! Bev x
Thank-you Bev. You are so right. I can remember when my mother was 40. She acted a lot older than I do now at that age. Having no children or family other than my partner makes me have no responsibilities except for myself. Whereas my mother at 40 was working full time and had four children. My Dad passed away young and never even got to enjoy his retirement. Living in the present is the best advice I received in awhile. The past can't be changed although how we reflect on it can. And no one knows the future. I guess it comes down to balance. But living in the present is something I do forget to do sometimes!
Hi Lacey NO I would press rewind. I find the time is flying by and the older I get
The more I sense that feeling of time running out, and wishing I was a bit younger .
I dread being old and infirm and isolated, and hope that my health stays
Good, and I try to eat healthily and look after myself well. Unfortunately those
Who suffer from Depression seem to die younger , statistically that is. Apparently it's the lack of social connection that does it, and that really worries me. So no
Way would I fast forward. Bev has said what I think in short.
Lacey you are relatively young, please stop worrying about what others think, eat well
And choose to live as life is so so precious.
Hannah x
Thank-you Hannah. I am familiar with the Stats on depression and am concerned a bit myself. I am a friendly person but I have a weird side to me where I seem to randomly distance myself from people and wonder why they don't reach out to me when I offer a gesture of friendship such as a smile or a hello.
Eating well is a key for feeling better for sure. I am going to make a big extra effort to get in with my life and just savouring whatever good comes my way.
When you reach out to friends and they don't answer
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