Still the pain goes on...

[Daviski]

45 years old and I don't want to live. I have been stalked for 32 years. I have been denied a life. CBT is helping a bit bug it can't paper over the cracks that I am in a desperate situation. There is no way out

[secondhandrose2]

Hi

You say you are being stalked and you are clearly feeling helpless about it having gone on for so very long! I wonder whether you have sought advice on how you might bring the stalking to an end? It would be worth talking to the Police and also to Victim Support services locally. My immediate thought is that you need to provide evidence and I am wondering whether you are collecting details of the times and places. It may be that you know the person, which seems likely, and I am wondering whether it is someone who is an abuser. I am also wondering whether they have abused other people.

There is always a way out of an abusive situation, the first and most important task is to realise that. I suggest you begin collecting real evidence of the stalking in the form of photographs and keeping a diary. Is that possible? Collecting evidence together will give you a sense of empowerment and may ease your desperation a little.

When you have evidence over a period of time take it to the Police. If they won't act then see a solicitor as no-one should have to put up with being stalked - it is illegal.

Do let me know how you get on with seeking help if you feel able to do that.

Suexx

[Imawinner]

Can I ask you what kind of pain you're going through?

Regards

[Imawinner in reply to Imawinner]

Sorry for my question I just read the previous reply and understoo. Seems like its really good advice

[wallflower_fairy]

Hi Daviski,

I think Sue's reply is really useful. But I'm also wondering, when you say you're being stalked if you mean by another person, or if you're evoking a sense of being haunted by your inner demons (mental anguish, pain).

If it's the latter...I know you're having CBT but I'm wondering how much help you've had for (what I suspect is) severe depression or who you've spoken to about this. I think you need to speak to someone immediately, so I strongly suggest ringing the Samaritans and they should guide you from there. samaritans.org/how-we-can-h...

Depression comes in varying forms, and in some cases, there can be pain which may not always have a clear root. But pain doesn't have to have a cause to exist, sometimes it just does. But even in such cases, pain can be managed, with counselling, the right medication - and happiness can still be found. Have you spoken to your GP? I really think it would help if you could express your feelings to someone kind, considerate, and who doesn't judge.

Please don't give up. It saddens me very much that you feel you've been denied a life. But 45 isn't very old. You've still got years of life ahead of you. It's not too late to ask for help.

If you are being stalked by an actual person, I strongly suspect you have depression as well so I would suggest taking both mine and Sue's advice if this is the case.

Please keep posting.

Gentle hugs,

xxxx

[wallflower_fairy]

08457 90 90 90 - the number for the Samaritans. They are really good, they listen and don't judge.