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Hurting so much right now :(

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Hi all, today I just left my fiancé for a 2 week separation trial as moving in together has been extremely hard on me cuz I have separation anxiety from my parents. Have done since I was young. I'm 23 now. I'm so confused now with what to do, I'm back home with my family. I didn't even make it 6 weeks :( at the start it was all about moving etc but the last 2 weeks I having been thinking non stop that it's our relationship... I can't decide if it is or not :( ??? I feel no love anymore as I've been that sick n anxious lately. Is it me or is it time to end things?

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Use the two weeks wisely, try not to be so uptight now ur back home. So just enjoy being around your parents n talk to them about it all. It's going to hurt bring in that u known zone but if u use the two weeks wisely then it can be a plus x x am sure u love him and naturally to move on from ur parents is a good thing but only if ur ready. Ur anxiety has taken over while u were away, it's not him but the situation x can u look up Joyce Meyer..living life positively. It's so good n small stepping stones to rebuild u will be good x x use the two weeks to move forward and not look back. U can't change back but can work towards the good ahead x x

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Rachms11 in reply tosnow-13

Hi thanks for replying xx I had a change of mind after talking it through with my parents. Going to keep giving it a go. I don't want to throw it all in after just 6 weeks of moving out. I believe it deserves need some more time and work xx I have great support from my family as friends. I know I can't run Everytime I feel anxious. Thanks for your caring words and the time to write snow :$ xx

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snow-13 in reply toRachms11

Good for you, I think the love is def there for you both but the whole anxiety thing just overtakes everything. But there is a way forward. I totally understand you wanting to be with your parents, only naturally you would want to go to the place you feel safe. Your partner and you will work out a way that you feel safe with him, your parents will always support you and be there every day no matter what. I would really give it a go and have lots of fun with your partner. Good for you x

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secondhandrose2 in reply toRachms11

Isn't the main question whether you love your fiancé rather than about your leaving home and separation anxiety? If you love him then you could seek help for your separation anxiety - it isn't either your fiancé OR your parents, you can have both of them. Your GP could refer you to a counsellor to try to understand and overcome the anxiety. xx

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I'm seeing a counsellor this week hopefully n will tell her everything. I know I need to make my "safe point" with my partner more n less my parents. It's hard though, 23 years of having my parents as that. I figured I don't want us breaking up over the anxiety I have as it's a life thing I've had. Whether single or not. So I need to learn to cope with it all. Thanks everyone xx I feel better with your support xx

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