I am such a fool...

[hh49]

Last night I hit it off with a girl who I sorta like but I don't know and she has a boyfriend in the army yet she feels something towards me. We did so much and it was awesome but now we regret it because she has a boyfriend and I don't want her to break up with him just to be with me. I feel like I should just kill myself just to stop the truth coming out.

[WantToChange]

I think perhaps this is her decision to make. It is tough dating a guy who is in the army (I dated an army man for a while once). Perhaps she hit it off with you because her feelings are starting to fade for the army guy?

This is nothing to be ashamed of because you can't help having a connection with someone and long distance relationships can drift apart through no fault of either party. However, I do think you should be careful about how far you two take things as it definitely wouldn't be fair on the guy and it wouldn't be a good start to a new relationship.

I think if she wants to break up with him for you, then you should let her. If she does tell you that's what she wants then make sure you encourage her to have a good long think about it.

If she does break up with him then you have no reason to feel guilty. People move on and that's a fact of life, sometimes for the better and sometimes not...

Hope things work out for both of you.

Take care xx

[hh49 in reply to WantToChange]

Thank you so much

[secondhandrose2]

You are beating yourself up a lot for something that is normal during the process of trying out relationships before settling down, it is nothing so dreadful and you are certainly not responsible for what the girl does with you! It sounds as though you have difficulty in allowing yourself to be who you are and tolerating the bits of yourself that perhaps you feel should be different. We all feel like that at times, but my concern is why you leap to the idea of killing yourself? Ok, so maybe you feel bad about what happened, but why does that make you think you should kill yourself, that's a very drastic step for being human! If you often feel bad about yourself you might have had parents who expected a lot of you with the result that you expect a lot of yourself, and that can be hard to cope with in life. Try to get things back in perspective and enjoy your life, but if you feel you can't do that then maybe you could ask your GP to refer you to a counsellor who you can talk things through with in order to find out why you are so unforgiving of yourself and how you can learn to love yourself more. xx

[hh49 in reply to secondhandrose2]

Thank you

[Allestklar123]

Please don't kill yourself. These thing happen and although you are very upset by this it is not worth your life. You may consider that you have made a bad choice by getting involved. No one leads a perfect life, no one gets what they want all the time. I hope you find a way through this.

[hh49 in reply to Allestklar123]

Thank you

[Jamielyn48]

Please don't kill yourself. We all make mistakes, no-one is perfect believe me. Its hard having a boyfriend in the army especially if they go on tour, but at the end of the day its not your relationship its her`s. She is the one in a relationship and she`s been unfaithful. There is no point in killing yourself over a relationship that's not even yours and you haven't done anything wrong. Im going through a break up just now and it sucks, I know that not being able to be with the person you love is really soul destroying but there will be more partners for both of us, who arn`t already in a relationship and will be all ours.

Tonnight, tomorrow and probably the next few weeks are going to suck but delete her number, everything you have to do with her its brutal but its the best way to get over someone. If she can`t be faithful to her man just now then lets be honest she probably wont be faithful to you.

good luck

[hh49 in reply to Jamielyn48]

Thank you so much