Tony Hancock was very correct regarding Sunday's. Lonely, total isolation. I went in the pub because there were people. I have an idea where the problems are, loneliness, same people, same town. I have an idea of a way forward, church for company, go on train to Oxford, cycle to new places. Be with people. Loneliness is killer on days like this. I have a mum and sister, but disconnected, I had a father who was a waste of space. Its the same for the evenings. I need a catalyst. Since I was 21, a very good percentage of my holidays have been alone. Its just the way things have worked out. I've had girlfriends but they failed.
Have a good evening everyone.
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Your right about Sundays Humphrey,I tend to save a lot of my housework and ironing for Sundays just to pass the time
Humphey, sorry your weekend is difficult. Yes many of us on here can find them difficult and so I do understand. It sort of brings it home at the weekend doesn't it if we are lonely ; the week we can maybe get through easier but certain times and certain situations can remind us of our emotional needs and our situations.
I know you've written on here a few times ; I seem to remember you used to go to the pub with your dad? and so that was something you did together; not sure if I got this right? It seems like you know some ways forward which can help you and so it is good that you have these ideas and I would suggest just doing them ; make a point of doing them. It isn't always that easy I know. I am sinking this evening and to be honest sometimes I just have to wait for a weekday to come around so I'll be out of this emotional state of mind; there is more structure and routine and an expectation of "workaday" so it seems less intense and easier I know.
Well done for posting up. Keep on trying and do try those things you suggested. Cycling sounds like a good idea. There are a a lot of cycling groups on the internet from very short rides to longer ones so maybe look at something you could do in a group when you are ready.
Roll on the week!
Hello
I was very much like you when younger, I broke of an engagement when about twenty after a relationship that had been running for three years. To get myself out I took a Youth leadership Certificate to get myself out and about. Then I started Ballroom Dancing three nights a week so with Night Classes for work and night classes for Youth leadership I had no time left to worry and time past to quick and I was twenty six when I realized that life was passing me by.
I was getting out dancing and making friends and eventually the loss I suffered when engaged was now a part of my past. So I began to get back into the main stream. Eventually I got married and now over thirty years on am still very happy. Although sad to say my disability prevented me from dancing and that became a loss. Now I have a Collie that keeps me busy and a house that up to now has kept me very busy to distraction.
When younger I used to holiday on the west coast of Scotland and would climb Monroes and meet like minded people in Youth Hostels, that began to assist in meeting people with different interests.
What I am trying to explain is make a pathway to follow it can be anything, I gather you are lonely and need some for of distraction, today everyone seems lonely and trying to make an interest is very hard when you are on your own.
To make one companion or friend that gives the chance to meet more people, from that introduction.
With dancing gave chances to become involved with friends I was meeting on the dance floor. Eventually though I used a novel way of meeting someone I married, then of course your life becomes more full.
Now I still do things that interest and basically have few friends, and a list of people who I know as aquaintances
Do not feel lonely many people can be popular, although have few friends. You need to get out there and look for possible interests. Night Classes with a community feel like dancing or something that can be an interest can be a good idea.
In the early days I honestly can say I never picked up anybody in the pub, mind I did meet someone under the clock in a railway station, I married her
Good Luck, do not try to hard, although be persistent and enjoy the hunt
BOB
Hello
I was very much like you when younger, I broke of an engagement when about twenty after a relationship that had been running for three years. To get myself out I took a Youth leadership Certificate to get myself out and about. Then I started Ballroom Dancing three nights a week so with Night Classes for work and night classes for Youth leadership I had no time left to worry and time past to quick and I was twenty six when I realized that life was passing me by.
I was getting out dancing and making friends and eventually the loss I suffered when engaged was now a part of my past. So I began to get back into the main stream. Eventually I got married and now over thirty years on am still very happy. Although sad to say my disability prevented me from dancing and that became a loss. Now I have a Collie that keeps me busy and a house that up to now has kept me very busy to distraction.
When younger I used to holiday on the west coast of Scotland and would climb Monroes and meet like minded people in Youth Hostels, that began to assist in meeting people with different interests.
What I am trying to explain is make a pathway to follow it can be anything, I gather you are lonely and need some for of distraction, today everyone seems lonely and trying to make an interest is very hard when you are on your own.
To make one companion or friend that gives the chance to meet more people, from that introduction.
With dancing gave chances to become involved with friends I was meeting on the dance floor. Eventually though I used a novel way of meeting someone I married, then of course your life becomes more full.
Now I still do things that interest and basically have few friends, and a list of people who I know as aquaintances
Do not feel lonely many people can be popular, although have few friends. You need to get out there and look for possible interests. Night Classes with a community feel like dancing or something that can be an interest can be a good idea.
In the early days I honestly can say I never picked up anybody in the pub, mind I did meet someone under the clock in a railway station, I married her
Good Luck, do not try to hard, although be persistent and enjoy the hunt
Hope you had a good evening and a great week. Sundays are often the hardest day.
Sarah x
Hi Humphreys looks like we both had the same idea today coz I went to the pub seeking company. There were a couple of friends in there so we all had a drink and a laugh and I ended up feeling less lonely. I always think Sundays are a non day as well especially if you are on your own. xx
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