Its setting in...

[Lush__x]

Well i wondered at what point today the anxiety would set in, same old boring reason. its so irritating, jaw clenching (which ive just realised i rarely do anymore), lack of breath, nerves, cold sweats, shaking...

and all because ive not really heard off that boy today!!!!!!!!!!!

and i know hes been busy but i know he should be able to check his phone now. so now i have a night of slowly worsening anxiety and worry. Fantastic.

In other news ive finally sent off my application to make an appointment for therapy (Sue ive gone with the place you recomended). they called me to offer an appointment but they failed to notice i did NOT want a man. I dont like male dentists, doctors etc so i felt angry and upset when they said it was with a man all withing a few fleeting seconds. so i said no dont want a man want a woman so they said they would get back to me.

Ive been in my new job within the company this week...been a really easy week and just want to have all my workload and responsibily sorted out but i know things take time. seems like its going to be good though...

Might have a sleep now...and ill wake up, check my phone, see theres no message, and panic.

Happy Friday everyone!

[Stilltrying_]

Oh Lush, I do hope he gets in contact and it eases your anxiety a little. I get a lot of anxiety too and I do understand the feeling. It will just be because he is busy and nothing else. I don't know what sort of thoughts you have when you get like it but do you get the sort of thoughts that his feelings might have suddenly changed? That is the sort of thing I can get though I get it completely irrationally as I may have been talking to that person earlier and things were fine, then just because I don't get a text when expected I start filling in the gaps with negative stuff. With me it's all about expectations; if I'm not expecting one then I'm fine but if I'm expecting something and it doesn't happen that is when the anxiety creeps in. One way to challenge yourself on this is to ask yourself could you possibly have said or done anything since the last time you had contact to make him suddenly change?The answer will be "no" of course. Then maybe try a bit of mindfulness (though it never works for me as my anxiety would be well over that line!) but who knows it could work for you. And maybe tell yourself something like you will find out in the morning, you will know tomorrow what has happened or just text him yourself or phone if you get desperate and tell him you're feeling insecure. It can work being honest as at least that person then gets to know who you really are.

Fingers crossed that he's been in contact with you by now, but if not I can tell you that he will be soon and there is nothing wrong, there is nothing for you to worry about, it will be ok Lush I am sure of that. He'll just be doing something but still have you in mind the same as before.

Gemmalouise X

[Photogeek]

Hi Lush ah I'm sorry that your waiting for text. Don't assume it's bad until

You have some concrete information. It's probably because you had bad

Experiences with boyfriends before. I think the therapy will be great and it

Will make you strong enough to cope and not merge too much in your relationships.

Don't let your self worth depend on a text or no text. You are a lovely

Intelligent gorgeous girl, so remember that.

Hugs

Hannah xxx

[Suzie40]

I used to get this. At my most extreme, I took my SIM card out of my phone, put it in an envelope, addressed it to myself with a second class stamp and posted it. That way, I had no choice but to stop looking at my phone every thirty seconds. It was quite good fun actually, and when it arrived, I put it in and he had text loads of times!