Hate this time of the year

[Hopefullychanging]

This time of the year brings me right back to where it all starting hurting.....the start of mums cancer killing her and ripping me apart

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Sorry to hear you are hurting. It's not nice when we think back to events that have hurt us.

Losing your mum and remembering this time last year is painful and it's all part of the grieving process.

You mum will always be with you in your heart.

Thinking of you. Gardenerx

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Hello

Welcome to our site you will get plenty support here and they are a very understanding bunch of people

Sorry for your loss, this time of year always seems to me to be the dying time We also lost a lovely neighbour over the Christmas period,

There is very little we can say, sorry for your loss and believe me time should be a great healer once the dust settles.

If you need to talk you know where we are

Keep a hold

BOB

[jules2105]

Hi

Sorry to hear about your mum and that you are struggling, I lost my dad to cancer at the end of last year. I feel devastated too, are you having any sort of bereavement counselling? Would recommend having some if not already to help with the grieving processes, it's so hard loosing someone to cancer

Jules x

[Sidhewolf]

Hello my lovely, your mum wouldn't want you to feel like this, I feel that she would give you a cuddle, say something like chin up, and remember her as she was before she was ill. I feel your pain and though it might not seem it now, the pain will fade, and be replaced by the lovely memories you have of your mum. Celebrate your mums life, the way she made you feel, sharing adventures and the times you spent together, try to remember the good things that you did together, things that made you smile. I have a friend who lost her brother, on his birthday, she sets a table with tea for two, biscuits, few flowers and visualises him walking in, sitting down and then 'chats' with him about her year, the things they did together, yes there are tears, this is normal when you love that person, but it helps her get through the coming year. I'll pop you in my healing book and am sending you strength, love and healing, and the biggest of hugs.

[Gambit62]

The light around this time of year is - and around the autumn equinox - has a distinct character and I think that for some of us it does kick off the bad memories. My dad died - over 10 years ago - in late spring and I just find myself feeling the pain every year in the spring - though I think it has got less each time. Do you have anyone in your family - or a friend of your mother that you could may be sit with and remember some of the good times you had with your mum?

[trachet]

I'm sorry to hear how upset you feel. I always dreaded this time of year. My Dad died of cancer on the 17 Feb then 3 years later my mum died on the 3 March, 2 days after my Nan. I was 23 at the time. The 3 weeks between the two dates felt like a numb no mans land. Time has healed that feeling, but that doesn't help with your feelings now. Talk about your Mum, try to remember the better times. If you cry that is fine. How you deal with your grief is up to you. If you have a garden you could plant a rose or other plant as a memory. Hope you feel brighter soon. xxx

[coatpin]

I believe for many reasons winter is hard its dull, you feel like crap, and my mum died last year. But do you know what, she is no longer in pain,,, and she visited me a few times Im sure. Ive dreamt of her too. So Im sure you mums worrying about you x, she woudnt want you to be sad... shes everywhere, in your thoughts. shes there. like she always willbe. now its your time to live. You will see her again. Talk to her at her spot. lay flowers. shes around in the wind. in your thoughts , sitting beside you. You just cant see her thats all.

so speak out her name in your mind, and tell her what you need her to know. she there listening.

take care x