I think i might i have depression, i dont really know what to tell my parents because i dont tell them much that happens in my life.

[Mary98]

I always feel down and i have lost 2 stone recently and i have not been sleeping well for about a week. I have also been crying for no reason and also things that never used to bother me have started to bother me. I have done different tests online including one on the nhs website and they all say i have a high chance of having depression. what could i do to investigate further to see if i have got it before i tell my parents.

[Janetb]

hi Mary, can I ask how old are you? maybe your GP would be a good place to start, you may even find that your parents have noticed the changes in you lately and are concerned for you .Do you have a good relationship with them? if so it might help you to talk your feelings through with them. Good luck I hope you get some answers soon

Janet

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Hi Mary

I hear what you are saying and I think you will have to start listening

To what people are saying to you. You are lucky to have a pony, you

Say you have lost a lot of weight recently!!!!

Have your Mum or teachers not noticed this or commented. Depression

And Anxiety are not cured overnight and you have to help yourself

Too.

Mary there is no magic bullet. When the Meds start to work you will feel

Better, but as you are so young , I feel you really should talk it over with your

Mum or a Teacher even.

Hannah

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Hun, the worst thing about depression is we struggle to ask for help we need.

Speak to them.

If you are over 16 you have complete autonomy on your care and as young as 13 you may be considered competent to make treatment decisions, but if you got family who will help its best to ask. My family still helps me and I am 43!

[Mary98]

thank you and janet i am 16. me and my dad our not really close but i am okay with my mum but we still argue.

[dontuserealname]

If you go to your doctor they will go through the same questions as the internet does, but will have the advantage of some distance from your position which makes it easier for a good diagnosis.

Talking to someone may make you feel better. If you can muster it some exercise often helps too!

[Suzie40]

16 is a really busy age with so much going on. I hated everyone and everything at that age and couldn't make sense of the world around me. I agree with Hannah about talking to a teacher. If you can't speak to your own Mum, are you close to any of your friends' Mums to talk to them? X

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Hi, it sounds as though you are struggling with low feelings but that they are not new as you say you have always felt down. I don't know how old you are, but it may be that you are an adolescent and often problems that have been around since childhood leave effects that only surface during teenage years. That may be so for you? If you have some idea why you have always felt low then you may find it helpful to speak with a counsellor and your GP could refer you, if you have no idea why you have always felt low then he could refer you for psychotherapy which is a longer process but can help you to look at the things that prevent you from being happy at such an early time in your life. It would be sad to leave things and not get help to overcome the feelings as if not understood they may become more entrenched and result in your becoming depressed throughout adulthood. Do seek help as now the low feelings are affecting your physical health too. Depending upon your age, you may be referred to the Child and Adolescent services where there is a notoriously long waiting list for talking therapies, so if your parents could afford to pay for you to get help privately that would be preferable if you are still under age. If you are an adult the waiting times are not usually so long and you could ask your GP to refer you for either primary care help or to the secondary services for therapy. You might also find it helpful to read about what makes children depressed since you have always felt low, that may help you to begin to understand where those feelings come from. If you cannot pinpoint your low feelings to particular events in childhood, a useful starting point for reading would be to read 'A Secure Base' by Bowlby as he stresses the importance of emotional security for a child's happiness.

Suexx

[Anita123]

Hi honey, sorry to hear your anxieties, it sounds a difficult time for you, but the fact that you've recognized this your self is a positive sign for you to be able to make steps to feel better. Don't be afraid to reach out for help, 'Young Minds' are a great online organization who you can chat to or take a look on their website for some advice/guidance or maybe contact local support networks, I'm not sure whereabouts you are but we have a 'What' centre near us who are a great source of help for young adults. I know what you mean about finding it difficult to tell your Parents, maybe in time it's something you can gain confidence to do but your GP would be an important person to visit first. Take courage from your first positive steps to seek help honey, you will become stronger in time & reach a happier long term place.