Boxing Day Blues...

I have them really bad today.

I have absolutely no motivation to do anything.

I had a pleasant Christmas Day with family, but now I'm home alone and that dark cloud has appeared over my head. I stayed in bed until 1pm as there is nothing to wake up for.

I went for a run hoping that would make me feel better, but it hasn't. I still feel the same way....lonely. I wish I could just pick up the phone and chat for hours to a trusted friend. I miss having a giggle, I really do.

This is the only place I feel I can share my woes.

Thanks for reading....

[hamble99b]

hi Viktor, sorry to hear your feeling low. hopefully tomorrow will be a better day. sending you a hug, (( ))

sandra.

[Gambit62]

Think that sometimes the down after a good day can be a real dip. Good that you did go out for a run - sorry that it didn't lift your mood much though.

Hope tomorrow is better

[Photogeek]

Hi Viktor this is a hard day for most of us, not that this should make you feel better.

I went to visit my best friend. After 15 mins talk and cup of tea, I asked him could I lie

Down for half an hour. He said ok and I wAs in. Bed for nearly two hours. When I

Got up he was livid with me and just said I will drop you home. After a while he said he had forgiven me. I just want to sleep And I suppose it's an escape i. The hopes of feeling better when I get up.

Anyway Viktor sorry I you feel bad but things should soon be back to normal.

But you have friends here now remember too and maybe next year things will be different.

Hannah

[Jamie186 in reply to Photogeek]

Hi Hannah,

What kind of guy is this? after a chat you had a two hour sleep, if he knows about your problems, he should have a perfect understanding of the reasons why, and not be livid,and after a while said he had FORGIVEN YOU. Kick him into touch. He seems to forget it's normally the man who goes off to sleep.

[Hidden]

Hello Viktor

Looking on your posts, did you manage to do the 5k ? I am. getting to old for that.

Christmas can be a blessing and a curse we either cannot stand Christmas, and many feel a day with the extended family can be a trail, while other families are the complete opposite.

Whatever we do, we feel either let down or elated when we get back to an empty house. Sometimes, family on Christmas Day fight like rats in a bucket. No matter, Christmas appears to bring out the best and worst in families

We accept that and do it all again next year.

Well now you have New Year to celebrate, we live on the Scottish Border and in places celebrate this time more than Christmas. I do not know if you are with anyone at the moment. Here we seem to meet new friends on the eve of the old and the morn of the new. Give it a try, it may be a storming start to the New Year.

Happy New Year

BOB

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Hi Bob, I try to run 5k every Sunday morning. It helps me escape from everything.

It's incredibly tough mentally when I run the course, but so satisfying when I've finished it.

I believe you're never to old to do anything!

I'm trying to keep my chin up, but it's still not working.

V

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Hello Viktor

Keep a hold

All the best

BOB

[Photogeek in reply to Hidden]

Bob you made me giggle when you said " fighting like

Rats in a bucket"

Hannah

[Suzie40]

Ah Viktor. Boxing day can be such a difficult day. All the excitement and build up to the big day and then it's all over in a flash. I kept myself really busy today by catching up with family and going for a big walk. I think it helped to beat the blues a little. Hope this dip is just a little one x

[Hidden in reply to Suzie40]

For me Christmas is just a regular day, but it was okay spending it with my family. I usually like going out on Boxing Day, but I just don't want to do it on my own anymore. Having a partner earlier in the year was just nice. I felt like someone, I felt happy and loved. Even though I really wasn't. Now I just feel like a recluse. In fact, I do believe I am one.

[Suzie40 in reply to Hidden]

Lots can change in just a short space of time. Who knows? This time next year you could be celebrating it with a new partner x

[Hidden in reply to Suzie40]

This is true. What I hope for in 2014 is to forget about dating and concentrate on my well-being. I want to get out more and socialise, try to make new friends and build a support network I so long for.

[Photogeek in reply to Hidden]

Viktor that sounds like a good idea. When we are happy and busy we statistically attract a partner more easily.i suppose if you are looking after yourself , then if you meet someone great. but it's nice to be able to be reasonably happy in the meantime.

I think your doing ok.

Hannah

[Jamie186]

Hi Victor,

Do you suffer like this after some kind of celebration, or something you been looking forward too?, I do, I think it's an anti climax, when every thing goes flat, I just want to lie in bed with the sheet over my head trying to go back to sleep.

At least you made an effort and went for a run, thats something I could not make myself do that, so well done. You know it will pass, so be positive, and I look forward to seeing you in the next Olympics. I'll be the one three rows back, cheering for you.Providing giggles are my speciality.

Best wishes (watch the old hamstring) about £9.00 in Tescos

Jamie

[Hidden in reply to Jamie186]

Jamie186, I chuckled loudly after reading your message (thank you).

I was not motivated to run this morning and when I eventually got out of the house after 1pm, I hit all the Boxing Day shoppers (it was crazy)!

I just ran for 20 minutes of my program, I felt good after, then I turned my key and walked into my home. It was dead silent!

The day is almost over and I face another day.

I suffer like this when I am rejected by human beings or I fail at something. Throughout my life, it's been the failure of friendships. I couldn't count the ones that were just for a season.

Recently, it has been encounter, which I feel I am not over and I can't seem to accept and move on. I'm not very good at letting go. I'm not perfect!

V

[Jamie186 in reply to Hidden]

Come on Victor, who's perfect, many pretend to be but few are at least you are not afraid to go for it. I see you went for a 20 min run (You seem determined to make me feel a lazy, unmotivated, bum) but you wont. I can appreciate how you must feel after turning the key and walking into your home to be met with a wall of silence, very depressing and a put down. I'll tell you how I avoid this. When I return home after a 20 min run, if I can manage to lift the key, open the door, I collapse on the floor accompanied by a lot of heavy breathing, moans and groans, there's no silence to depress me.

Have a great new ,& happy new year Victor, keep smiling

Jamie

[Photogeek in reply to Jamie186]

Jamie I think Viktor should get a cat and then he would not be lonely. He would come in to be greeted by a cat miaowing and jumping on his shoulder and lots of attention. It gives you something to think about to take the focus

Off yourself and stuff. I love my furry bundle Luna .

[Hidden in reply to Jamie186]

Today has been a somewhat better day. I've been out. I've made an effort to keep busy, which has taken my mind of being alone. Happy New Year to you Jamie.