Account has been deleted...have we lost another member to suicide?
The coming week is World Mental Health Awareness Week...how can we improve our support for each other? We write on here in total anonymity...we can't prevent suicide but we can be here to listen!
I knew this would happen soon. One of our friends committing suicide. We need to be there for each other. I have been offering support for people on here and they have given me encouragement. There are times when I worry about someone but I dont know who to report this to. Is there someone in charge here? This is a good forum but we dont want to loose any more members!
This is my second one this year Golfer, the first was before the site mods. and I was a volunteer and spent a lot of time in one to ones with someone who did exactly the same. I telephoned the moderators after a lot of PM discussions but as no one has to divulge even there area let alone any contact details there is nothing that anyone can do except hope that they have second thoughts 
RIP to Cory Monteith (Glee) and others we may have lost!
I really didn't need to see this post, sorry.
Really sorry if its caused you upset Lucy...I didn't want to ever see another deleted account as a volunteer on the old system!
Hey Lucy. Message me if yr upset and you want to talk. Hope yr ok 
He was talking about it being his last weekend. There were so many people trying to help him that I thought.. hoped he would know that he had lots of support on here. Oh we really don't want to lose him.This is so sad.
Yeah, I saw the account was deleted...I promised him on his post that I would message him the morning after, I thought it may help if there was something to get up for the next day. Kept checking back yesterday for a reply to my message and noticed the account had gone. Didn't know whether to say in case it upset anyone.
I don't know what more we can do...I know that sounds defeatist but the anonymity is what makes the site work; unfortunately it also puts limits on what we can do. Maybe I'm just being a pessimist because I feel so powerless to help at the moment.
Sadly there will always be some people who will feel unable to cope any more and will kill themselves. RIP.
There was a lady called sasays that used to post on here. She was so nice. Then one day she just stopped posting. I sent her a couple of messages but she never replied. That was months ago and I've been thinking about her ever since. I read this post and I felt like crashing. I imagined this forum to be a place where people are just waiting to die. Making small talk until their time comes. A bit like being on death row.
Oh Lucy,
Please don't think like that hun...there are always going to be a few that can't cope anymore but, on the whole, the site does work to help the majority!
I know what you mean about it preying on your mind though, I'm exactly the same over someone else too. All we can do is the best we can with the positivity we have at any given time.
It doesn't mean that we shouldn't acknowledge those who've left us though. That's my belief anyway.
(((Hugs)))
Lucky
Hi Lucky , that's true about things weighing on your mind. I too would be upset and very sad if someone here made that decision. But really it's statistically inevitable. By having this site and by everyone's kindness and caring ness . We can hope to help and lessen the chance of bad outcomes.
Even when I was away for the last week I was wondering " how are things going with this peron or that person" . It's natural as I feel we are like a family.
Hugs to. You sound so kind.
Hannah
{{{{{{{Lucy}}}}}}}
All I can really say is that I'm not sure I would have had the nerve to go to the doctors without the people on this community. And last night, when I was scared out of my wits, everyone here made me feel better and like I wasn't going mad. I suspect everyone feels a little like you do. Things like this bring home the reality of this condition and what it can do...but places like this make that less likely, and kind and lovely people like you do so much to help people. There are so many people here who are so much better for having you there supporting them, don't forget that
Hi Lucy . I have been away for the last week and didn't get time
To log on here as usual. I think it is hard if so one deletes their account, and realistically no one will know the reason. It is natural maybe to attribute the closing of accounts to a bad outcome or a fatal. Outcome but I suppose one never knows for sure the reason. Could be a " I have enough support and don't need the site or they get annoyed with someone's response. Lucy all in all and I speak just for myself, the site for me is very cheery and positive and funny at times. I can be more honest here than anywhere and I feel I know people on the site. This bond helps me and I don't feel it's God waiting room. I read all the posts and even if I feel terrible I try to give some helping hand to someone who feels very low. This caring bit helps me and I hope people here care about me too a little bit. Lucy I get a lot from your posts and you are very logical and kind.
Be good to yourself, and sorry if this post is a bit long winded and off the point.
Hugs to you
Hannah
hi lucy im still here thanks to a member being in the same city he knows who he is and my ifes been hard since before i joined but you are all amazing in your support but sometimes people cant carry on im here if u need to talk
The support on here is amazing. We encourage each other the best we can. If someone is in a situation that they cant cope with we shouldnt feel we have failed. If anybody has failed it is the medical authorities who havent helped this individual. Personally I dont understand why this site is anonymous as I feel if we know each other better it would help. what do others feel.
Thanks for everyone being so honest and open. If people dont want to give there names for whatever reason it is up to them. Take care everyone. David
Hi David, my sentiments exactly. This is a great site and I love that people here are so honest and open and really try and help each other.
Myself, I have been on holidays and I was v. Down all the time. Being away made me worse . Anyway I feel bait better now I'm home and I don't want to bring the post back to me . I just want to say I agree with you and personally don't have any hang ups about giving my name etc.
Take care and good to talk to you.
Hannah
Hi Hannah, I too get a bit down when Im away on holiday. I prefer the comfort of my own home and familiar surroundings. I like routine and holidays break the routine. I went back to work last week after six weeks off, Im a teaching assistant, so that has made me feel better but tired.
Take care. Good to meet you.
David
There's little point in speculating about what happens to people in distress who delete their accounts. There are thousands of support places online for people with mental health problems and those at risk of suicide. I know from experience some people choose to move on when they find something that fits what they need at any particular time. Some people also feel they are maybe getting too close to other members and it scares them, so they feel the need to just disappear.
Can I also just add that next week is National Suicide Prevention Week 2013 is September 9 - 13 en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Natio... not Mental Health Awareness Week (that's already been and gone). World Suicide Prevention Day is on the 10th September iasp.info/wspd/.
There is a Facebook Page to support National Suicide Prevention Week facebook.com/pages/National...
If we can just do as much as we can to highlight suicide and get people talking about it we can make a difference.
Catherine
Catherine
It was not a case of mere speculation...in both cases I've come across the people concerned had expressed fairly concrete plans of how, why and when they were going to fulfill the act...how else do we highlight and talk about it if not by example of people we're trying to help?
Perhaps you might like to try and contact 'emms' who, in the same post, had tranquillisers and sleeping pills hoarded and lined up ready to take them all this weekend too?
Your comments have personally left me feeling cold and angry - so sorry I got the wrong event...I'm in the process of tapering off ADs AND diazepam after 20 years, will be 57 in 2 weeks and I feel like a scolded toddler for making a mistake!
Well FU all - I'm going too!!!
I'm sorry Lucky19 (although I know you've deleted your account) and everyone else. Whatever you call it whether is speculation, guessing, wondering..........we absolutely have no way of verifying what happens to people in distress. When you're feeling low, and I have been there too, you hold on to these things, going over people's last posts, what did they say, signals etc. Many people have plans, we talk to people over the phone here at Action on Depression with very concrete plans, we use ASIST and be supportive as we can and sometimes we do make a difference, other times we just don't know.
I'm far from scolding you, I'm trying to reason and be open to suggestions that we have to say 'we just don't know'. On a forum a ran back in the late 90's into 2000 we had a young woman (21 years old) experienced abuse etc. who was using the forum for over a year and she took her own life. She had txt a couple of us the night before and everyone tried to do as much as they could to help her. Her mum ended up getting in touch with me afterwards and I shared her posts with her and helped her through a very difficult year. We even met up and I will always remember Caroline who had her whole life ahead of her, but just was so overwhelmed by what had happened to her when she was younger.
All I'm saying is...........'none of us truly know unless someone gets in touch'. I hope forums such as these do help in some way to ease the isolation and desperation people feel when in dark places. In the whole world there is one death by suicide every 40 seconds which isn't nice to think about at all. Lets just hope someone got to them in time and maybe they're in hospital, you never know.
Catherine
Thanks for taking the time to reply. It's sad to lose a member like Simply Simon, whatever his reasons were, but I think it's even sadder to as a result loose someone
else for all the wrong reasons, not thought through, as I think this forum was really helping her and she'd made a lot of friends..
both of them are sadly missed.
If either one are reading this, please consider coming back..
Love, holly xx
How do we know what happened to him?
Will we forever be left guessing? This is the first time I've seen a post like this since I joined this forum and I must say it really upset me.
I burst into tears as I just wrote him a post the other day, as did we all, and was hoping he'd
come out the other end.
It's a horrible thing not knowing, but I suppose we'll never know..
Holly
I don't think anyone was trying to make anyone feel stupid. I think Catherine has made a really valid point in suggesting that people often disappear when they feel a bit suffocated. Simon made it clear that he was lonely and was used to having no one to talk to. All of a sudden he was bombarded by the love and care of the wonderful people on this forum. I think that was probably quite overwhelming. I'll be honest in saying the title and initial post upset me this morning, but that's because I've not been exposed to anything like it before. Lucky, if you are reading this (I hope you are) please reconsider your decision to leave. I really enjoy chatting to you x
This is awful Lucy, I hadn't experienced anything like it either and I must say it really upset me too..
God let Lucky be ok..
Lucky if you're reading this please let us know you're ok,even on a different forum, I'm a member on the anxiety one, though I never use it, but I need to know you're ok! Please?
Love you
Holly Xx
She seems to be made of pretty tough stuff. She'll be ok x
Let's hope so... I'll miss her though.. Xx
Holly. Good night luv.. Glad you are here and so glad we are all still here. I hope the others are ok. I will pray for them tonight. I pray for everyone here daily.
Luv
Hannah
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