Spending money to feel better

[knowles8586]

They say Bipolar makes you spend loads of money but with me it builds up with my stinking depression.

I now have to find more work and am hoping to get some support

[Golfer15]

I have this problem with spending money to feel better. I bought a push bike recently for £500!

We have to find other ways of feeling good, that dont cost money or dont affect our health like drinking or over eating.

[knowles8586 in reply to Golfer15]

Yes I agree. I now need to address a drinking problem and Im overweight bah!

[knowles8586]

yes i no theres not much support in Southport

[Suzie40]

I think many people struggle with this, I know I do. For me it a vicious cycle. I feel down at not being able to have nice things in my house, so I spend the little money I do have on short term fixes. I then get angry with myself for not saving it, which makes me feel even more depressed!

[hamble99b]

I recently posted this, hope it helps

martyn lewis the money expert has written a valuable booklet on mental health & debt issues.

it's a free download at:-

moneysavingexpert.com/c...

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Link doesn't work!

[knowles8586 in reply to Hidden]

I no just tried

[hamble99b in reply to hamble99b]

moneysavingexpert.com/.../mental-health-guide

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Hi Knowles

I've read that about BiPolar & spending money. I believe it has me where I am today. During my depression over the years I got extensions & loans on my mortgage etc to grt work done on my house. I did'nt spend it all on my house however, I'd have gone into town & spend it on clothes, make-up, perfumes etc. Then I'd go out for dinner with friend, me paying etc all things to make me feel better which in the end cost me loosing my home, a job I was in & loved for 22 years & then another job I was in & hated four years after that. I ended up in a lot of debt & in a council flat. I have told Drs, CPN etc but I feel they just ingnored it.

After having gone through all that I am I feel in a much better place as it also cost me my marriage & I was'nt happy living in the house. My son is now 23 & out making a life for himself & dojng very well too which makes me happy for him. I now live alone & my so calked friends are a distant memory. Its a true saying about when your down you find out who your true friends are. I did have one best friend for 30 years who lived 23 miles from me but died suddenly almost 3 years ago. That leads me on too a whole other story I could tell but would take me too long. Its part of my reason for wishing I was'nt here.

I hope things start to pick up for you soon but we are always here to listen.

Best wishes

Jackie xx

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Hey Hun,

I'm still around too you know. I did the same when I'd had ECT I got debt after debt...all I bought were 'investments for the future', like £60,000 in a gold mine in South America that never even existed and 1st print books that now are worth zilch in the economy we're in. It just spiralled out of control and I got it up to around £250,000 when they cut hubby's pension by loads and we were deep in the shit!

We split up and he got the money off his Mom to pay everything off. We still live together but are 'separated' because of it all.

I still struggle with money and yet I'd been so good with it before I got ill!

Most days I wish I was dead at some point and would gladly take a pill to end it all but I soldier on regardless in an empty meaningless pit of despair.

Good luck to anyone with this problem,

Lorraine

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Thank you Lorraine.

I will send you a wee text.

Luv

Jackie xx

[knowles8586 in reply to Hidden]

Sorry to hear that, I no if I had a friend who was lonely Id envite them round even if it is the weekend for a meal

[knowles8586]

thanks for that.I used to be quite athletic and hope to feel better by going swimming 3 or 4 times a week, but I need the motivation and support to change.

I am going on holiday soon and will swim daily in the pool hopefully this will push me in the right direction. i am a bit of a perfectionalist and my weight gain through depression has got me very down, plus I split from my sons dad 3 yrs ago and am still alone

[hamble99b]

moneysavingexpert.com/.../mental-health-guide

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Hi

Yes, that sounds familiar, spending as a comfort. I find I spend as a way to pass time - I am trying to de-clutter and sell on e-bay but then find myself buying as much as I sell - for something to do as much as anything else. I often wonder why on earth I thought an item would be so good and think how so much of what I buy has to be re-sold but then go on buying. I think it becomes an addiction and I have decided to bring my spending under control. I am going to allow myself a certain number of things a week and that's all. If I can stick roughly to that at least gradually the piles of clothes to sell will actually go down!

Take care,

Suexx