1st ejaculation vs 2nd ejaculation

[xyz221]

when I have sex during 1st ejaculation I last for only 2-3 minutes, but right after 1st if I go for second round immediately I last much longer. how can I last longer in 1st itself?

[xsevenx]

A lot of people, me included, would be delighted with your situation. To be able to start round two immediately after round one is awesome.

[Hidden in reply to xsevenx]

Ah the good old days when we had staying power…now I would probably masterbate first then have sex

[sinombre]

Your question is a little bit unclear to me. For 1st ejaculation, do you mean 2-3 minutes of penetration before you ejaculate? Or 2-3 minutes of continued penetration/thrusting while/after ejaculating before you can't continue and need to rest to recharge?

If it is time before ejaculation, then you probably need to try methods that would delay ejaculation for the 1st ejaculation. However, don't know if that will have any impact on your 2nd ejaculation later when you delay the 1st, but you won't know until you try.

The various methods include thinking other thoughts to distract you from ejaculating too soon, slowing down penetration, pinching or applying pressure to the penis during penetration, and using desensitizing spray/cream to numb the glans a bit.

[xyz221 in reply to sinombre]

Continuous thrusting last 1-2 two minutesThis is after foreplay

[theamos]

Well the first is for you the second for her

[sinombre]

Curious, you can begin round 2 immediately after round 1 with no rest to recharge in between? You can get hard immediately again? That sure would be nice.

How much longer do you last for round 2 if you ever kind of timed it.

[xyz221 in reply to sinombre]

may be 10-15 minutes

brother i had sex only 2-3 times in my life,i have never cum in 2nd time because she gets tired

[Hidden]

I am very similar as depending on how aroused I am the first time can go pretty quick. But like you I can cum and get right back into it. And the second time or anytime after always takes longer. I figure it's just because after the first time I'm not as aroused but still aroused nonetheless. Only way to fix it is maybe masturbate right before your gonna have sex to help you last longer for that time.

[xyz221 in reply to Hidden]

ARE YOU MARRIED?

[LUMC_Survivor]

If you are finished in 10 to 15 minutes on the second go, then you are doing it for your pleasure not hers. Relax, slow down and take your time, and you should, with practice, last an hour or close to that, with practice.

[xyz221 in reply to LUMC_Survivor]

Okk brother Any more tips?

[sinombre in reply to LUMC_Survivor]

He mentioned she gets tired before he can cum the 2nd time. 2nd time for practice to last longer 1st time makes sense, but for practice and for his own pleasure, seems it may be limited to her not tired yet. May not be able to go on if she too tired.

My wife gets sore after the natural + add on lubrication starts to dry out. So in such case, you either stop or have to try reapplying lubrication.

[BexyBoy]

Wait till you're a fair bit older - time will cure the problem! When I was first married in my twenties I could orgasm twice within a few minutes, then by age thirty, I could only manage one orgasm. Neverthelss penetration was rarely the best way for my wife to orgasm so clitoral stimulation was always preferable for her and we learned that it was best for her to orgasm before penetration (fingers are so much more skilled than penises anyway!) then she didn't mind if I orgasmed quickly after a few vigorous thrusts.

[LUMC_Survivor]

In reply to Sinombre. If that's what your wife is experiencing, I would agree you have a problem, or rather your wife does. In your case, a trip to a sexual doctor may help her. I'm not sure a regular locum doctor might not have the experience/expertise to address her issue. Of course, there may be a medical reason for the dryness, but there may not be. I do hope you find a solution.