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Can I pull it back


Hi all,

I'm looking for some advice. I'm 39 years old and haven't really taken care of myself, yes I've been a member of a gym on and off for the last 5 years and for about 3 of those years I went 3/4 times a week.

Unfortunately the flip side is I've drank too much, smoked too much, and not had the best diet. Now at nearly 40 I find myself on blood pressure medication and have had blood tests for high cholesterol.

I've now met a girl who I've been with for 7 months and she wants kids. I'm not against the idea, infact there's nothing I want more. I always knew this was a possibility as she's only 27.

My question is can I pull years of bad living back? The last thing I want is to have kids with her and then die when my kids are still at school.

Thanks in advance

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Hi ,

I'm not a medical professional but your gp would probably would probably be the first option for advice. What I would say is give up the fags and booze, change your diet to a more healthy one and take up regular exercise. I guarantee wishing 4-6 weeks you will start to notice a difference. It's obviously not going to be easy but worth it if you have the will power. If you're into books I would recommend reading The monk who sold his Ferrari. It changed the way I look at my life.

in reply to Andyb32

Certainly you can if you are motivated and adopt the healthy routines for body and mind. Your situation should give you motivation, but whether you can achieve it is very much down to you.

I had a look at the book suggested, which is an american lifestyle guru book of the most hypocritical variety. The author Sharma, seems to have exploited every possible way of making money out of this book and many other similar. I expect he may well have his ferrari and lots of other wordly possessions!


See time never rolls bacl . But if you can do meditation and pranayam (alongwith your medications for BP) you will feel afresh .

As long as you still have a properly functioning penis and testicles, you can make babies of course..

However, with will power you CAN make a huge difference to your physical health. If you Google 'NHS Choices' you will find a wealth of information and advice.


Yes you can. I was in the same shape at 40 and in a mess from a messy divorce. Overweight, drinking too much , no exercise as I worked away most of the time. Suffered badly from high blood pressure and was taking 2 pills a day for it - and it still was too high! I lost 20 pounds on slimming world, try to schedule 2-3 gym visits a week and eat healthier, and and feeling a lot better now at 55 than I was at 40. I married a lady 6 years younger than me and now have 2 lovely kids aged 12 & 8. It can be done if you want it. By the way losing the weight has brought my blood pressure down to an acceptable level too. Good luck

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