I am 54 years old and I’ have ED. I’ve used the little blue pills and the trimix shots. When I was younger I measured 7 1/2 inches long but now I’m lucky to be 5. I don’t have any curveiture or anything but I have some indentions on the side of my shaft when I’m hard. And there are some hard spots on my shaft when I’m erect. With losing inches i can’t satisfy my wife in bed anymore (bring her to orgasm ) because of being so small. We r limited on different positions because of her back and knees so it’s usually just missionary position. So two questions
1- has anyone else had the problem with shrinkage and
2- what about any suggestions on what positions to maybe try to make it feel like I’m bigger than what I really am.
I talked to my urologist and he suggested a implant for erections Has anyone else had the implant surgery and if so did u gain or lose any inches with it. My urologist said I would be a good candidate for that but I’m afraid I will lose even more inches and girth
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I know. I know. We’ve been married for 40 years and I’ve always been able to bring her to orgasm by either fingers or intercourse. But as time has gone by her body has changed to. And it’s more difficult. But it’s my job to satisfy her in bed. And with what’s happened to me it’s made things tough and put a strain on our marriage. She says it doesn’t matter to her. But I know she misses it. Idk what to do
So you both have changed. That is what happens in life. Have you actually sat down and had a discussion and decided how to proceed? You need to hear from her and not just assume that her needs are for penetrative orgasm.
Thanks. And ya we’ve talked about it and she’ tells me it’s not important. That it doesn’t matter whether we get off or not when we have sec that it’s just about being close. I agree but it still is important to me because otherwise I feel like I’m less of a man who can’t satisfy his wife in bed. Once again she says that’s it’s not important but I disagree. Idk what to do.
There is many ways to please a partner. We found that as life goes on, people’s gratification changes. In my situation, my wife had cancer of the uterus, and suffered physically, as well as emotionally, but our life had deeper meaning , and we learned to be joyful without sex for extended times. So don’t worry, just extend your love to her , and you will experience a deeper joy. Good luck to both of you.
HeyThanks for the response. The wife has never liked a lot of foreplay because most of the time because if we do I usually will cum pretty fast once we get started. I suffer from premature ejaculation plus She doesn’t like long sessions she only likes to go for a couple of minutes anything more than that she just gets to sensitive and can’t take it. She doesn’t like me going down on her either I want the long foreplay but like I said it effects me. And I think if there was a way to do both maybe it would help me. Idk. U would think after being with the same person for 40 years that pre mature ejaculation wouldn’t be a issue but I guess over the years I’ve just learned to adjust because of her. Even when we were first together she never wanted to go but a couple of minutes.
I’ve had no injuries and I never had any bumps or knots or indentions on my shaft until after I started taking the trimix shots to help with ED.
But that’s when I noticed all the knots and indentions. So I blame the shots
I use pills to help but I still don’t get totally erect still. I’m just not sure what to do. I’ve read online that sometimes they can do like a dobler or sono on ur shaft to see if ur getting full blood flow throughout the penis but I’ve been to two urologist and neither of them have even mentioned it. I believe I’ve got something that is plugged up causing less blood flow. And where I live there’s a limited amount of urologist to see. Which really sucks.
I have had loss of length and girth, plus total loss of erections for six plus years and lost an inch + due to radical prostatectomy. I pump every day just to maintain what is left. I have tried PDE5's, Tri-mix injections worked, but then I developed Pyronies. I you can get any kind of decent erection, you can buy a penis sheath that will give you more length and girth.I have a urologist that specializes in in implant surgery. In getting the facts from her , implants will not increase your length, but will increase girth. It's the basic mechanics of a hydraulic device. They only implant a unit to fit your length. Implants do not expand laterally, only in girth. If you get implants, using a sheath would give you a lot more than you ever had.
Keep in mind that once you have implants, all of your erectile tissue will be destroyed to make space for the implants. There is 0 possibility of ever having a natural erection once you do it. Give serious thought to what your options. I have done it all, except for the implants.
Has your wife seen her gynecologists about her problems? At your ages, women are usually pretty dry and sex is very uncomfortable. getting some prescription lubrication with a little testosterone in it may help her to enjoy sex a lot more. You haven't said whether your circumsized or not. This also can play a role in your ability to get a full erection. I know too many guys that are circumsized and are leading celebate lives because they lost their sensitivity way too early in life. You're both way too young to give up on sex. Good luck.
Yes I am circumsized and no she hasn’t seen her doctor yet but we r familiar with some of the things that show up with the age thing. But it’s not always sensitive for her but it just depends on the day. I know it sounds weird because sometimes she is but sometimes she isn’t. But it’s always been anything more than a couple of minutes that’s she’s done. And I’m usually done to lol. But we’re ok with that. It’s just kinda been the way it’s always worked for us. But the premature thing has always been a thing with me. But we are both 54 Idk it’s just frustrating and the ability to get a full erection even with meds is bothersome. I need to go back to my urologist and see what other suggestions he may have
Your story sound pretty much like mine. I'm 63 and have a little more time under my belt for dealing with this. The best thing I can suggest is what I did. I regrew my foreskin. It was the best thing I've done in a long time. The foreskin will help with the PE. you'll last longer. Doc thought it would make the PE worse, but it was the other way around. I lasted longer and the intensity was fantastic. As far as the erections, it wasn't a total solution, but it helped. I still use Cialis to help with that. Having implants sounds like a last resort to me, and they have a limited life span. Then you have to have new ones implanted.I really encourage you to get your wife to her gynecologist and have the over 50 sex talk. After my wife did, she did a complete 180 on her attitude of sex.
If you think you would like to look into regrowing your foreskin, the first thing to do is to keep your penis covered. I use a ManHood that's made in Canada. They're not to expensive and they last a while. get at least 3. You can get a discount if you buy 3 at a time.
Here is the web site for information on how to regrowing your foreskin. "norm.org"
Here is web site to order ManHood. "manhoodcanada.com"
You have a skin covering but not a foreskin. A foreskin is not just a skin flap. Restoration can be done with or without surgery. Although these techniques can give your penis the appearance of having foreskin, they’re usually unable to restore connective tissues cut during circumcision.
You are right to a point, I lost my cornea band and my frendulum, but just having your gland covered with a replica does give you much of the same results as an original one. The sensitivity has come back from when there was none. Celibasy is the word when you have no sensitivity. I am producing my natural oils that you don't when circumsized. The gland is lubricated. soft, and has lost all the keritization that happens after circumsizion. I no longer have a piece of leather for a penis. If you want more information go to NORM.org.
Sorry to take so long to get back to you, but I needed to do a little fact checking. I'm guessing you think there is no way my reproduction foreskin could possibly be producing mucus, but it is. Apparently the body has the ability to regenerate this. There are other parts of the body that regenerate themselves too.
There is no evidence to support what you have said. In fact according to a 2011 report on foreskin restoration techniques, nonsurgical stretching may indeed help extend skin. But these techniques don’t restore any of the anatomical features of the foreskin, such as penile nerves and the frenulum.
Perhaps you would like t produce research to indicate that ordinary penile skin has the ability to change its cellular structure to mucosal skin.
The liver can regenerate but that does not involve stretched non-liver tissue suddenly transforming itself into liver tissue. The liver tissue just grows - like to like.
If you are producing it, where did the mucosal tissue come from? Even places that encourage producing a replacement foreskin by stretching admit that the stretched penile skin will be like a foreskin but cannot be a foreskin. Ordinary penile tissue is incapable of transforming itself into mucosal tissue.
Whatever you have is not normal penile mucosal secretion.
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