my husband has never understood or cared to understand lupus. Even though I have given him literature, invited him to hospital. Nothing. If I get fatigue, he makes comments that he'd like to be to sit around lazing! My appearance has changed quite a lot due to steroids, including 2.5 weight gain. I was depressed last year but managed to get myself sorted. However, my husband is now causing me immense stress & I'm worried I'm losing my marbles. He goes off on all night benders, switches his phone off, comes back between 1 to 3 days later. He comes home in a deshevelled drug induced state and then goes bed, refusing to look at me. Says I've become boring. He was away at his mums for 12days & got back yesteday. I didn't even see him. Dropped his bags in, went straight out, not come back!!! I'm sick of it. I stay awake all night worrying til my head feels it's going to explode. I love him, but know he's bad for me. It's been like this on & off through the marriage, but now he does it all the time.