Is it me? (It probably is)

[Froggie70]

Good morning everyone. Here’s a quick question for a Wednesday morning. Think back to your pre Lupus days (with my memory that’s a task in itself). Remember when someone said ‘you’re looking well’ and you felt like giving them a hug? Funny now when someone says it I feel like thumping them!! It might just be me😉. Have a good one (or as good as you can🤗🤗).

[Chris21]

Morning froggie70, we’ll you certainly made me smile this morning 🙂 pre lupus days, I thought it was old age creeping on, so when they said I looked well, yes I wanted to hug them thinking I don’t look old. Now when they say I look well, I still want to hug them thinking retirement has worked 😂

[Froggie70 in reply to Chris21]

Ha ha. Thank you had a wee giggle there myself. Feel pants this morning, could barely get out of bed so when I logged into my works Team chat to be told how well I looked I must be feeling better, well the air was nearly 🤬🤬🤬. Have a good one🤗.

[suzannah16]

I feel like I need to have a notice round my neck saying I may look well but I feel like this and have my fav lupus picture on it

lupus hog

[svfarmer]

😂😂😂 yes I get this all the time - I say it’s the make up x

[PositiveT]

Yep. People say but you look so well! My standard reply "Thank you" internal reply "please stop saying that as I feel awful today!". People think they are giving you a positive comment but actually it can have the reverse effect.. Hope today is better for you.🌻

[Froggie70 in reply to PositiveT]

Thank you. Best of it is I look a state😁

[MusicalFurbaby]

Definitely not just you!

If I don’t know the person who gave the compliment, I just smile and say, ‘Thank you’. If I know them a little better, I might be tempted to launch into a full-blown description of exactly how well I do NOT feel!

[Froggie70 in reply to MusicalFurbaby]

That’s exactly how I feel🤗

[rosebud52]

😂 it's not just you who feels like doing that x

[CecilyParsley]

Thanks for the chuckle, it is sooooo true. Pre being ill it was a compliment now it is an insult usually met with a grimace. I share your sentiments about wanting to thump them 😂😂 xxx

[Roarah]

I find it is a regional expression. When I visit with my English friends and family it is commonly stated that we look “ well” whenever we first great each other. Here in the states the “well” is replaced with “great” and implied meaning is more about aesthetics than health. Either way I think it never really means anything just an ice breaker generic comment uttered by many and hollowly applied to all so I feel nothing when it is uttered.

[lowraind]

As I told my husband, after the nurse practitioner could not believe I was 80, "my outside looks fine, it's my inside that is the problem".

[Froggie70 in reply to lowraind]

😁🤗

[Krazykat26]

😹😹 At this time in my life I just gratefully accept the compliment!! Thank you!! 🙏😹However close family n my best friend are quite comfortable with telling me I look 💩(rough) 😹🌈😽😽xx

[Froggie70 in reply to Krazykat26]

Putting it like that I think I’ll stick with compliment😉😆

[eekt in reply to Krazykat26]

...im my early doctor-bothering days, a couple of GP's 'investigations' resulted in the diagnosis 'you look terrible' ! 🤣...they were right about that! xxx

[Froggie70 in reply to eekt]

That’s a 50/50 one that isn’t it? 🤗

[PositiveT]

Great to read all the replies! We Brits can be too good sat the stiff upper lip! I agree with all that has been said. I think we all speak more openly to close friends and family. I just wish other people would see the invisible at times. But that's a big ask. Stay positive warriors! WE know how we feel. No fake patients here. Take care all. X🌻

[Froggie70 in reply to PositiveT]

🥰🤗😁