Facial features

[Tinkerjack1912]

Hi does anyone else suffer with sunken cheeks?

It looks horrible and I don’t understand why.

[Minnskimoo]

Yes, me.! And neither do I, Tinkerjack. I have been told there is nothing wrong and I’m focusing too much on things that are negative about myself!

I am pleased you have asked this question and will be interested to see if anyone else respond with some insight.

x

[Tinkerjack1912 in reply to Minnskimoo]

I just think it makes me look ill. I’ve put weight on with my meds so it stands out even more.

[lawzie1 in reply to Minnskimoo]

Hi I have one sunken cheek and it looks horrible. I have put some weight on with my medication but it looks so sunken in it looks skeletal. I'm so embarrassed about it. To me it feels like I've no fat in my cheek, I do know it has a name but for the life of me I can't remember it. Can someone out there help me please.

[Minnskimoo in reply to lawzie1]

Awful as it is Lawzie, I feel a tad relieved that this is perhaps something related and not my overly ‘anxious’ thinking. Apparently!

And no, it isn’t good for the already flagging positivity about oneself!

[leslieliesel]

I hesitate to offer an opinion..yet some medication causes sunken cheeks. I have seen many men who are on medication for AIDS, who have sunken cheeks.....of course I have no idea if there is a connection..I do not know what medication anyone is taking....But I can understand that it is very distressing...... Drs Plastic surgeons, can fill in the cheeks with fillers ..or fat

[Tinkerjack1912 in reply to leslieliesel]

Hi Leslie, happy new year to you. I’ve had this going on for a few years now and when I look in the mirror to me they stand out which I don’t like. I know there are various reasons it can happen I was just wondering if anyone else has the same problem. Xx

[lawzie1 in reply to leslieliesel]

Hi I don't have aids but I will be looking into having it filled.

[Tinkerjack1912 in reply to lawzie1]

Hi, let me know how you get on please. X

[leslieliesel]

I understand...and perhaps if you want to add another thing to do on your list , you can talk with a PS to see if you could do fat transfer....I just did it on my smile lines...I am 62 though..but the softening helps me feel better when I catch myself in the mirror xo

[Tinkerjack1912 in reply to leslieliesel]

I think how we view ourselves is a large part of how we feel working ourselves if that makes sense. Thank-you for sharing with me. Xx

[leslieliesel]

You look like a very pretty young woman...and I agree with you. We feel better having made our bed, or put away the dishes, or painting our walls to freshen up a room, why wouldn't we feel better, if we felt more peaceful with our faces, when we look in the mirror xo

[Tinkerjack1912 in reply to leslieliesel]

That is very kind of you to say, this picture isn’t up to date though it was at a time before my health got worse and my body changed. I am now 40 my young days are gone lol. Xx

[leslieliesel]

Your" reply" makes me sad...So young to have this happening...

I am a hypochondriac ...when I was young(20's+) one of my fears was getting Lupus...another fear, cancer. As I grew older Lupus didn't scare me anymore..after all, I wasn't young anymore..I felt "safe"from Lupus.

Cancer fear..YIKES!! Over the top!!

When my granddaughter was born in 2005 I was 50..I had to go through the Cancer section to get to maternity..I actually covered my eyes..I could not even look at the word...6 weeks later I ws DX'd with breast cancer....I was a freaked out, and a freak!!! That was 12 years ago...It is said when one has a phobia it helps to expose yourself.. Closed in spaces ,flying , crowds,etc.

I said What?? I have to be exposed to cancer to be less fearful??? I actually am now less afraid..I can say the word cancer....

Now Lupus....I am fortunate that I didn't get(if one" gets" Lupus) when I was young like You , and so many others here. I Hate having Lupus, who doesn't, but knowing you are so sad ,and seeing how Lupus is affecting you and others, breaks my heart.... I guess I am feeling like motherly towards you..I have 4 daughters ages 44 40 34 and 29..it is hard for me to know that You and other young lives and bodies have changed because of Auto Immune disease....

Tinkerjack, I know what I have written can not help what you are feeling, both physically and emotionally....I truly hope the best for you.....what kind of medication do you take for Lupus?? Is it helping?....You and I met here when I was just dx'd.....

Do remember, if your Lupus is under control, consider fat transfer....we are a whole package. As you said looking good helps you feel better. That is also important in managing our whole selves~ body mind spirit

Sorry for going on & on...

much love,

leslie

[Tinkerjack1912 in reply to leslieliesel]

life sure is funny. I am sorry to hear about your breast cancer, and hope it is all under control now. I haven’t long been diagnosed with Lupus. I’m on a mixture of meds but the Main Lupus one is hydroxychloroquine which in fairness I didn’t realise was helping me so much until my consultant suggested reducing it and within the week I was useless to anyone. I hate relying on meds but that’s what life has chosen for me so I just have to get used to it and move on. Hugs to you. Xx

[leslieliesel]

I take hydroxychlooquine also... xo