Lonely

Hey all, my main problem A.T.M is loneliness . I have to much time on my own, and it's so hard. I'm taking steps to go back to work. I think to much, when driving think where is everyone going, what they doing. I know I'm very shy and nervous, but I look around see people,laughing on their phone. And think why me, y my life so crap. Company can cure a lot, talking ect x

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Most days I see no one till I go my parents at 4pm, It awful and think this can't be nomal.

I think at least when I'm dead, won't have these thoughts, god what a f..k up I've made of my life.

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Hello & Welcome Hidden

I think how you feel and think we can all relate to that but you certainly have not made a mess of your life and changes can be made which you are already making by taking steps to get back into work

Small steps is what we need and with each one they will get us to where we ant to be

Everyone is different and some are more outgoing than others and if we are more shy that is not a bad thing at all even though we may feel it is but imagine if everyone was loud and forward we need all different personalities in the world and accepting ourselves for who we are actually can give us more confidence

I wonder if you have ever thought about any Volunteer work ?

Not sure if you are in the UK but charities are always in need of Volunteers , and this would help you to get back into the atmosphere of a working environment as well as meeting new people and maybe even new friends

Now you have found us I hope you will feel you have somewhere you can come and talk and it will help in a small way for you to not feel so alone

It is late in the UK so I am not sure if anyone else will see your post until the morning even though we have some lovely members from other parts of the world that may be around and reply but as people log on hopefully they will give you some support and a warm Welcome

Take Care x

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Thank you for your reply xx

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Hi and welcome to the group! It's great you are reaching out online and making some connections here. I hope it will help you feel less lonely.

I saw in another post that you might be around menopausal age, those hormonal changes can cause depressive symptoms and especially if you were doing good around 5 years ago and are now not doing so well, I wonder if this possibility has been explored. I was in chemically induced menopause from chemo for one year and found myself down, depressed, anxious, moody, irritable and just plain not smiling very much! It gave me a new perspective on menopausal changes that impact our brain chemistry. It's a real thing!

I started Effexor and it has helped me a lot. My cheeks even hurt because I was smiling so much more! ☺️ A little medicine might be the bridge you need to get over this bump in the road of life! Have you tried medicines or talked to a dr about it yet? I know it's hard to make those initial steps in a depressed state, very hard in fact. Don't give up and keep posting!

lil-rose

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Thank you for your post, no it not meds, on them I don't know if you can see my previous posts, as new on here, it's down to what happened with my daughter .. Not something I can change, get over, or understand why, it should never of happened. Thanks for reply xx

[lil-rose in reply to Hidden]

I'm so sorry to read the past posts about what happened with your precious daughter! Your heart must ache for her every time you are apart, it must be so hard. It could very well have been a trauma for you to go through all of that and trama can change our brain chemistry. Medicines can help, as far as your post above, it seems you have not pursued meds, what about any other professional help like counseling?

lil-rose