Help anyone?!

[Rachms11]

Hi all, how do you tell yourself to just be happy and let your guard down when ur in a new relationship that you really like the person but your still anxious from the failure of the last relationship? And your constantly scared of being hurt I hate living like this 

[Anxiety15]

I have the sane problem I was in a bad relation ship for 3 yrs and it has been 3 yrs since I have been I'm a relationship and get so anxious that I can't meet no one and I get scared can't accept someone being nice to me so I feel it's to good to be true wen I'm on a night out I cud meet a fella but the next day I just can't meet up with them it a horrible feelin so dn't worry u really are nt alone and hopefully we will learn to be able to deal with it 

[Rachms11 in reply to Anxiety15]

Thats for your reply. I think we just need to accept that these ppl we are with or seeing are different than the last and give them a chance hey

[Anxiety15 in reply to Rachms11]

Ya it is very hard I can't even bring myself to meet someone I'm gone into a comfort zone of bein on my own wen I'm full of drink I can meet a fella I wish o was able to go it sober hopefully some day