I’m new to this forum. I was diagnosed with premature ovarian reserve yesterday. My FSH was high and my AMH was extremely low. They couldn’t find my right ovary during exam. I’ve been irregular, but never thought that I would be told I couldn’t conceive and that I’m not a good candidate for IVF. I had the tests done based on a cycle that came 1.5 weeks after my previous cycle, so I can’t help but feel that the results are skewed somehow (like was that a true period?). Maybe I’m in denial, but I want to try to conceive using my eggs before using a donor. Has anyone had a similar situation and found success? Should I get a second opinion?
My husband is blaming me for waiting too long. I’m 35 but have been off the pill since I was 28. I just feel so alone and defeated.
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He shouldn’t blame you. How could you know. Maybe he’s just angry too and feel defeated. It’s a difficult process. Me and my hubby are going through it right now. Really hope you become the 2019 mom and hope the same for me too. 😔💙
I’m sorry that you and your hubby are going through it too. It should be the complete opposite! But I’m realizing that everyone grieves differently and I’m trying to let him get through it on his own and count on wonderful people like yourself for support!
I'm confused why this happening to you. Why dh is blaming you? Fertility issues is not the thing we choose!! Besides you've been off the pill for 7 yrs! Is your dh ok, by the way? Did he pass the required tests during investigation? And I'm so sorry your right ovary is not viable..You'll probably have to count on just one. Still you've got the problem nailed and are seeking for professional help. This is the most important for you both now! Be kind to yourself, honey, I'm praying your joy's around the corner xx
I am going through a very similar situation. I too have been diagnosed with low AMH and high FSH levels. I was able to conceive for the first time due t miracle. However, now the doctors are saying there is no chance. I changed my doctor an visited someone who is more experienced. They have also told me that I should opt for IVF with DE. However, I am not sure if I am prepared for it. My husband is okay with anything which makes it even more confusing.
Just wanted to wish you all the best with yuor further decision! Opting for DE IVF is often confusing, moreover it's more likely to influence relationships unless well and openly talked about. We'd been twice through egg donation previously. Those shots brought us our adorable twins. We did use donor eggs and I did struggle much my genes were going to die. And that I'll never see any of my family's talents in my kids..and this scared me much. I was glad we could keep at least dh's genetical relation. But at that time it seemes not enough for me..I understand how draining his decision might be for you. 'Cause this is YOU under loads of hesitaations and probable stress. You definitely need more time to get there talking to more people who've been through the same thing. Doing more research and of course, having someone by your side who listens to you and understands you. I'm wishing you peace in yor heart first. Then I'm hoping the decision will come on its own. Blessings xx
Tough days always make us feel like everything is conspiring against us. I'm sure you're just having some intense days in ivf world. And now you have a tricky decision to make on donor eggs. You aren't the only one trying to beat back thye clock. But nature always has some other plans for us..Moreover this journey tests who you are as a person, as a wife, as a friend etc. It demands huge efforts. I hope you'll find more comfort soon.
We all can google for the rough statistics on success rates of ivf shots for women of different age and so on. But I truly believe unless you feel strong enough to deal with it, you should definitely go!! Do risk, do try, do everything to have your mind at peace you did your best! If you're feeling well about using own eggs - do it! All in all it's all about the quality of eggs - NOT quantity!! So probably your amh might be not the saddest issue at all. My numbers weren't great too. But this didn't keep us from creating a perfect embryo which further developed into a beautiful baby girl inside our surrogate. She's lovely and sweet and healthy and strong..So this all makes me feel my ''few''eggs just did it!! I'm wishing the same to you. Dh makes you hurry, but actually you shouldn't. Unless you think you've tried everything..only then go on with donor eggs. this is my personal point of view though. Wishing you the best of luck and support x
I was in a similar position to you at the beginning of the year, high FSH and low AMH, and I was 35 (now 36). My consultant suggested moving straight to ivf despite me not being a great candidate, giving me a 10% chance of success. Well, it worked for me, and I am due my miracle baby girl in March 2019.
I would encourage you to get a second opinion, and you also may be right about your results being skewed. Whatever happens though if your results/the consensus remains the same and you want to give it a go with your own eggs, you should. I know I am incredibly lucky, but I am so glad that I did.
Hey, luv! If you're using your own eggs during IVF, at the start of a cycle you'll begin treatment with synthetic hormones to stimulate your ovaries to produce multiple eggs - rather than the single egg that normally develops each month. Multiple eggs are needed because some eggs won't fertilize or develop normally after fertilization.
You may need several different medications, such as:
Medications for ovarian stimulation. To stimulate your ovaries, you might receive an injectable medication containing a follicle-stimulating hormone (FSH), a luteinizing hormone (LH) or a combination of both. These medications stimulate more than one egg to develop at a time.
Medications for oocyte maturation.When the follicles are ready for egg retrieval - generally after eight to 14 days - you will take human chorionic gonadotropin (HCG) or other medications to help the eggs mature.
Medications to prevent premature ovulation. These medications prevent your body from releasing the developing eggs too soon.
Medications to prepare the lining of your uterus. On the day of egg retrieval or at the time of embryo transfer, your doctor might recommend that you begin taking progesterone supplements to make the lining of your uterus more receptive to implantation.
Your doctor will work with you to determine which medications to use and when to use them. IVF has quite a high success rate if performed in reputable clinic. So if it's IVF route for you, make sure you've done the right choice. Hugs and all the very best!!
Hello there! How are you doing? These posts are a year old so I'm just wondering if you have pushed through with having treatment? All I can say is 35 is not late at all. Hope you had progress after a year!
Hi! The notifications for this forum were going to a different email and didn’t realize so many had followed up with their love and support! You included! It has been a rough year to be honest. A failed IUI and IVF. I’m on my 3rd doctor now and he said there wasn’t anything medically he could do to help use my own eggs. He said doesn’t mean it can’t happen naturally, but that it’s a very slim chance. He recommended DE. I’ve started working with an acupuncturist and doing a fertility cleanse (Premama). My husband and I decided to take a break and try naturally until the first of the year. The pressures, medications, stress, disappointments, etc became too much. Maybe I’m being silly, but I’m hopeful this natural way will work. If not, I’m going to consider the DE...it’s just so expensive!!!
Sorry to hear that dear, getting pregnant naturally would be such a dream, right? I do hope you do. But try not to think about it and have love shared between you and your dh. Regarding DE, it isn't that bad really. I had a donor sperm and am now 10w3d just keeping our fingers crossed this goes all the way. Are you planning your DE at home? Are you in UK? I had my treatment abroad so it's cheaper.
You did?! I’m in the US and have wondered what it would be like to have treatment abroad. How’d you tackle that and feel comfortable to choose the doctor without physically being there
We had our doubts of course but I searched for reviews on various forums. This clinic i chose was listed as one of the best in europe. Is it allowed to post the link? Anyway I can just delete after if not - dunyaivf.com/en/blog/top-iv...
I would love to know the outcome too. I'm currently reading more and more people are using mitochondrial donation. It's aimed to ''restore'' fertility in women of 40+ yrs. and with low amh levels. That is they take healthy active mitochondria from donor's eggs. Then ''insert'' those to intended mother's own eggs. After this they fertilize oe with semen like in ivf, and transfer the resulting embyo. Isn't it worth considering?
I know it's a time span since this was posted, but I absolutely love the way the medicine's stepping forward nowadays. This is not only because IVF has already become an ordinary thing, but because scientists continue to work hard to improve new and new methods. Mitochondrial replacement therapy is definitely among those. So called ''three parent method'', but actually your embryo gets sth like 1% of donor's DNA, all the rest of genes are yours! Why not to try out this very option before moving on with donor eggs for ex?
I completely feel for everyone in this boat. My husband and I couldn’t get pregnant. Moreover, I’ve worked with small kids for 10 years. I’ve been asked these well meaning questions , you know.. and they were very painful. I think people see how I relate to children and they are being complimentary when they say that they’re surprised to hear I don’t have kids.. We decided to go down this route. And for the first time I didn’t feel sad when I got those comments or when friends asked us about kids. It’s been quite a wild ride.. That time we found ourselves in faraway Ukraine. Chose BTC among 4 other clinics on our list. Mainly because their new offer blew us. You might have heard about mitochondria donation therapy..My previous doctor's verdict was my eggs are old and don't function as it's needed for successful shot..He advised using donor egg. On the contrary, our new doctor at Btc clinic felt optimistic about own egg with IVF. She said my med history/test results didn't look bad, eggs were not so poor as was stated before..So she'd face the challenge and try to supply them with more energy via donor's mitochondria. Dh and I were hoping to have genetically related to me kid..And we finally got successful.
I wish you all the best in your treatments and that your path brings you much happiness and peace.
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just keeping our fingers crossed this goes all the way. Are you planning your DE at home? Are you in UK? I had my treatment abroad so it's cheaper.
No hope left 😪
4 years of trying... 
Help please multi cycle or refund