Changing jobs for IVF insurance

[Lovelylovey]

I had my Fallopian tubes taken out and now have to do IVF for a chance to have children. I am 29 and engaged. My current employer doesn’t have IVF insurance

I’m thinking about taking a chance at switching jobs to support this IVF experience as my current job doesn’t allow the time or insurance and it will cost close to $20,000 for one IVF cycle. The new job cover IVF under progny a fertility company.

Any other ladies in the same situation or have some advice or thoughts

[Nat246]

Hi I’m in the same situation with no Fallopian tubes so IVF is my only option.

I feel unable to change jobs as my current employer is so understanding and allows my complete flexibility to attend appts/work from home. Also if I change jobs I’d lose maternity benefits if I were lucky enough to fall pregnant. I’m happy to sacrifice higher pay for less stress now.

I’m in the UK, sounds like you’re in USA so I imagine things work a bit differently there.

There are so many things to consider but if you can’t afford IVF without moving jobs I guess that is a leading point to consider.

[Lovelylovey in reply to Nat246]

Thank you for sharing. I forgot to say that the new job has IVF insurance my current employer doesn’t. I’m here in the USA and I think they should help us more. How is it there?

[Nat246 in reply to Lovelylovey]

We don’t have health insurance via work generally in the UK as we have a free national health system.

However each different part of the UK has different rules about what fertility treatment they will find. Some pay for three rounds of IVF, some just for one and some none whatsoever. If you don’t have the NHS option we need to pay privately. Those are the only two options.

If you have private medical insurance in the UK they have a clause that it doesn’t cover fertility treatment either.

So a lot of women end up having to pay a lot of money!

So with the new job they pay for all the IVF on the insurance? That sounds very tempting.

[Lovelylovey in reply to Nat246]

That’s very interesting thank you for explaining. It’s so expensive. Kind of makes me angry 😠 actually very angry.

This job will pay for a cycle and egg freezing for a year the medicines and a few more perks! My fiancé wants me to change jobs any ways being that my current job is working nights which is awful on our relationship sometimes.

With you having a very similar situation, do you have an IVF plan? I feel like people think I’m crazy for wanting to make this switch but if I truly want a shot at having children I would have to at least try this way.

[Nat246 in reply to Lovelylovey]

If you took out all the fertility stuff and just consider you happiness, do you want to change jobs?

It’s so annoying and unfair that every decision you make when you have fertility issues revolves around it.

I’ve already done one round on IVF which was unsuccessful and nothing to freeze. It was a learning curve that’s for sure!

I was making arrangements to start a second round of IVF when the lockdown started. They have just this week allowed Fertility clinics to open so I want to start as soon as I can! How about you what is your situation?

[Lovelylovey in reply to Nat246]

I haven’t done any rounds. I would have started before the pandemic and I’m sure we would have paid privately.

I’m reading so much and how with age percentage goes down and how IVF cycles are a lot of work and time. I’m just scared that if I don’t put myself in a position to be able to try that I won’t get a chance.

I’m not sure of my egg quality also so that’s a bit scary.

I have to wait on that appointment as well due to covid

[Lovelylovey in reply to Nat246]

You say it was a learning curve? Do you mind explaining. I want to be so prepared but it seems with IVF can one ever really be fully prepared?

The more time that passes I feel like I’m losing my chances of being a mother.

[Nat246]

Have you had investigations into ovarian reserve? You are really young still so unless you’ve had a doctor tell you otherwise you have no reason to worry about egg quality/quantity.

Learning curve- I had read a lot about IVF but nothing prepares you for how you feel and cope emotionally during the treatment. And the processes themselves are all new and can be quite scary. I feel much better prepared going into a second round.

Are the clinics open in the US now?

[Lovelylovey in reply to Nat246]

I was starting the process to get my ovaries checked. This was right before the lockdown. I know my left one was wrapped in my tubes or something like that. And my right one was blocked.

I get these cyst on my left ovary that’s really annoying due to PCOS. The left ovary gives me so much pain. Even now with my Fallopian Tubes being gone. I believe the clinics are supposed to open Friday

[Nat246 in reply to Lovelylovey]

So have you actually had tubes removed or are they just out of action? I’m sure I’ve read they can unblock tubes.

Sorry to hear about the cysts but they can be removed so fingers crossed they can do that for you without any issues.

Friday, not long to wait for opening, but then it’s when can you be seen as now a wait I imagine.

Do you have any friends or family that understand fertility issues? I don’t and I find that the hardest thing. They can’t offer any support really

[Lovelylovey in reply to Nat246]

I actually had them removed the adhesions were really bad before removal I had 2 dye test and it just was not fixable.

I have one friend who understands and seems like the rest of the people around me don’t. My good friend is pregnant right now and it seems like no one truly understands. My tubes were removed March 25th and it’s still fresh to me. I will be 30 this year and do believe it’s hard for them to understand. I look healthy I guess

I’m sorry you don’t have the support 😞. If ever you want to chat I’ll be your fertility buddy 😌

[Nat246 in reply to Lovelylovey]

That was recent. Mine were removed just over a year ago, it is a massive thing to process. Like you say, you look healthy so people seem to think you’re over it in a week or so but it’s not like that.

One of my best friends it also pregnant after one month of trying. It’s def out a strain on our relationship sadly.

Ahh thanks that’s so sweet. Seems like we will both be starting IVF shortly so good idea!

[Lovelylovey in reply to Nat246]

Do you have any social media? I can add you on. I have IG.

[Nat246 in reply to Lovelylovey]

Tally9234

I just use it to follow fertility accounts though.

[Lovelylovey in reply to Nat246]

I was reading your posts and I see your best friend was pregnant too! Mine went 2 months avoiding me and finally told me that she was scared to tell me.