Weight...

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I'm so unhappy with the person I see in the mirror. I need to change some habits. I need to learn new things and get to a healthy weight.

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Looking at oneself honestly is extremely painful sometimes and I have every sympathy for how you are feeling. Do you have an idea about what habits you want to change? I am guessing you probably do, as deep down we generally have an idea how we put on the extra pounds!

When making changes my advice would be to introduce them gradually and resist the extreme quick fix approach. Make small and achievable changes so that you can begin to feel positive once again. When seeking advice consider it carefully and remain in control - take charge and not let others take charge of you.

A lifestyle blogger I follow suggests we try to feel grateful about something each day. I have my own daily ritual which has the effect of diverting negative feelings in much the same way as feeling grateful does.

A week from now I sincerely hope you feel you have made some positive progress and success will build on success in due course.

Hang in there!

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You've just confirmed for me that this was such a good idea to sign up too. You know, it feels amazing to listen to people who understand.

I think accepting the fact that I'm not happy is so disheartening, but I guess now I can do something about that...

Yeah, absolutely, I have a tendency to skip meals and eat a lot at night, I have no routine! That is by far the biggest issue, it's almost like I need to set alarms at set times to remind myself to eat. I need to also find a way of making breakfast exiting, as I literally have no idea when the last time was that I ate breakfast. Motivation is a killer for me, as I have no self confidence, so I really struggle to get going and believing that I can actually do it! And get to where I wanna be.

Yeah, I'm definitely the impatient type and get down on myself when I don't see results quickly. Thank you so much for your advise it's all very helpful.

I like that, I'm gonna try it, it certainly helps to remind yourself of the positives, and flip the focus from the negatives.

Thank you

[RebLM in reply to sm94]

Hi. I had the same a few months back. Got to the point I'd almost run screaming if I saw a camera as i so hated the pics that popped up on Facebook etc. Anyway I'm doing something about it now and I'm sure you can too. It was hard to start with but 5 months in now and i'm 2 and a half stone lighter and finding the routine easier. I note you mentioned about making breakfast exciting - i wrote in my post on this thread what I have for breakfast: healthunlocked.com/healthye... I don't know if it's your sort of thing but I love it and it really gets my day started on a happy healthy note. I am really beginning to see the difference in my body now, am enjoying clothes shopping and not wincing every time a photo of me appears on Facebook (in fact I'm getting some lovely comments from people on there that havent seen me in person for a while). It gives me the motivation to carry on and lose more (there was a lot to lose in the first place!!). Good luck with it - its hard work but worth it.

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Weight gain is an issue but it does depend on causative factors. Lets be honest ..one either is over eating or on medication or unable to exercise etc. I put on nearly 2 stone through steroids because I have a rare auto-immune disease called Wegeners Granulomatosis and they saved my life at that time but after a long time to come off them and now being supported by Mycophenolate Mofetil I have lost all of that weight. Thing is I have always eaten healthily and yes have the odd biscuit/chocolate but with steroids I was so hungry that I just ate whatever.

I felt bad and guilty but my mind was muddled and I wanted to eat these things. Now I am steroid free I am my old self, I cannot believe how much I ate of non-foods. I now cook my own meals with stir frys and fresh meat usually chicken and am enjoying a life when I feel energised to take my wonderful wee dog out for walks again. I am now 9.4 stones a loss of 2 stones!!!

I believe that a good diet and exercise is the only way forward and that is advice from a slim person who became fat through medication and then lost that fat because she came off that medication. People who are fat because of their diet make a choice in life either carry on or change.....I could not change at the time I put weight on because of steroids...they can change and save their own lives by not eating the wrong things, by getting help and joining support groups.

My last thought is that each and every one of us regardless of shape or size deserve to be a person who inhabits this world but we all know sometimes we might need a little help in being that person. "food for thought"?