Too sad to smille today

rob died on 15th after four months i was holding his hand as he took his kast breath. My daughter has taken him home to africa wrapped in the shawl that has been used to carry akl my grand kids

[Saskia]

So very sorry for your loss, faded blossom. Was Rob your partner? I am guessing he was. He looks as though he was a kind man with a lovely smile. He will have been comforted by the fact that you held his hand until he passed. He will be at peace now. Bless him. I can imagine what you must be feeling. Grief sends us into a frenzy of all sorts of emotions which sometimes take years to work through. I lost my mum and gran at Christmas and Christmas has never been the same since. Also a very dear friend collapsed and died just before last Christmas, so I never got to say goodbye.

Sorry this is a ramble.I am not really with it yet but felt that I had to respond to your sad post.

Take great care of yourself. Love and hugs Saskia. XX

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Rob was my husband of 45 years we seoerated because he indulged in mental cruelty he came bavk from africa to live with me in august and became the man u have just described for a few months leaving me shattered and nwreft

[Ginsing]

Bless you fadedblossom how very difficult to have found him again and then lost him - I send you gentle hugs remember him from the good times ((((((()))))))))))) take care xgins

[NordicNavajo]

Feel the comfort of doing the right things in life, which you have done, and lay the man you shared much with to rest, in the knowledge that you made his passover as pain free as could be with your love. He will still feel it so please allow yourself to do the same.

Much love NN

[fairycazzie]

Hi faded blossom,

hugs to you and so very sorry of your loss and how things were and then back in your life again and now i think he is at peace and there is no more suffering.

You held his hand and i always say if you are there for that person then it was meant to be, everything is laid to rest now and the shawl is lovely what you done as everything was left on good things.

I was with my lovely gran in 2010 when i held her hand and stroked her head as she took her last breath i spoke to her and some family members had gone to the local shops , i am 1st grandchild and i missed saying good bye to grandad in 2008 yet i was in the place he loved the best at the seaside with my sister, it feels as though everything was meant to be the way it was because i threw lots of flowers from each member of family whilst they were at his bedside in hospital and said goodbye i was in his favourite place.

I watched my Favourite bestist anty ever go to sleep whilst i held her hand too in 2008 and i just believe faded blossom that things happen for a reason and what happened with your husband of 45yrs and leaving and coming back and how things were at the end was meant to be peace at last in a lovely way ..

i am virtually holding your hand now and a gentle hug to you as now you can go into 2013 with a smile as much as it hurts, the pain of grief is different to pain of an illness.

I kept myself busy but not too busy.

lots of love blossom xxx caroline x

[hamble99b]

may Rob rest in peace.

I held my lovely Dad's hand as he died, my Mum fell asleep in her chair.

there is pain and heartache, but hopefully the memories of the last four months will help you remember that Rob and not the one you knew before.

I am proud of you for taking him in. allow yourself to grieve.

I'm sending you love and a gentle hug (x)

regards,

sandra.

[motzie]

Hi fadedblosom, just want to send you love & hugs at this sad time, & hope you find peace of mind and have lots of lovely memories through this difficult time. Take care (((((((hugs))))))))) god bless xxx.

[Mdaisy]

Fadedblossom,

So sorry to hear of your recent bereavement. May the love of those around you help you through the days ahead

Thinking of you

Emma

[Cat53]

So sorry to hear of your loss.

[hunnybee]

So sorry for your loss xhugsx until you meet again xxxxxx