Too many changes - but trying to see the bright side.

[julieevh]

Three weeks ago my daughter and her boyfriend decided they needed to find their own place.

Within a couple of days they had a nice little house in Stoke all sorted out for themselves, my grandaughter and their dog, they are moving at the start of November.

I was left in an awkward situation. I can't afford the bills and to keep on living in my house without their lodging money.

After having 4 estate agents come round to totally devestate me over how little my lovely house would sell for; me and my ex husband have agreed an amount for him to buy out my share of the house - he has a bargain but what can I do?.

I have found a flat to rent in the next village for me and my younger daughter and our dog, it has been totally refurbished and should be ready in a week or two. And I've bought a new car for myself - the two at home are both owned by my daughter.

Is it any wonder my brain is spinning? I've had to write absolutely everything down in a book because I couldn't afford to get the dreaded brain fog with so much going on.

It is going to be such a wrench leaving my beautiful house but I just can't stay here and make ends meet.

I had a few tears at the weekend over having to move out; it just seems so unfair that having worked so hard for so many years and then having such awful health problems all I have to show for it is a small pension, an 11 year old Ka and a rented flat over a convience shop.

Ohh well I'll just need to do what I've always done ... make the best of it!

So sorry if I've been a little distracted over the last few weeks, I daresay I will be for the next few weeks too .... but needs must and all that!

Julie xx

[FionaP]

Good luck in your new life. I sold my lovely home at stupid price after moving last March.

On the up side is an easier life and no stairs. Wishing you many happy years in your new place. Fi xx

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We downsized recently from three floors to two, one of the most sensible things we have ever done. More cost effective, smaller for me to look after, not so much to worry about. We sold my car too, so we only have hubby's car now too, so savings all round.

Sometimes it is really worth doing these things just to make life a little easier. Unfortunately in life our circumstances can change without notice and we have to adapt and not through choice. It's hard but it can work out for the best in the end. We can take our memories with us too which is also a plus.

[Extremelygrumpy]

So sorry Julie, we moved from 3 storey house to bungalow... It's taken a year to adjust... Yeah it's great to have no stairs but such a lot of furniture had to go... It's only now I actually think of it as home, I don't know where you are but wil, you still be near enough for your granddaughter to see you often, fingers crossed she will

Good luck

VG xx

[Ginsing]

I wish you all the luck you need it will be a great change but try and look forward not back when it comes to leaving your little house a quick walk around and then smartly out of the door do not linger go to your new lovely flat and share a glass of something. You will have so much to do courage I have moved many times as a service wife and now I am settled I do not want to move again but if I ever have to well I will take care xgin

[gypsycrafter]

I also moved house 3 months ago and still unpacking! I was blessed with good health most of that time, but now the weather has changed and fibro + ibs is back (ibs affects my heart). I went into a lovely council bungalow in a quiet area and it will be my last ever move till the box arrives. try to keep positive honey and write EVERYTHING down! you will look back on this in a few years and laugh at it. I hope it all works out for you and that you manage to settle down quickly. soft hugs xx

[Cat53]

Good luck in your new home....forced moves are sad and hard but in the end it's for the best and freedom from financial worries is a huge plus!

[Dixiesdaughter]

God bless you in your new house and may it become a happy much loved home for all who live there. Xx

Dixie

[rainbowdancer]

Good luck in your new flat.

It is very hard to let things go after working so hard. I know what you mean about loosing out at the moment on property.

My Mother came to live with us because she was 85 and we decided to hold onto her flat for a while,friends to stay or family,then mum took really ill and ended up after being in hospital for 2 months,going into a home as I was too ill to care for her. We then put her little flat on the market because she had to pay £3500 a month ( because she has property ) and we ended up having to let it go for well under half its value,then the buyer wanted to knock another ten grand off We had to accept because the home bills were mounting up. When I think how hard my mother and father worked all their life for their own place,it makes me sad. In some ways I am glad my Dad was not here to see it.,and Mum does not know as she has bad memory problems,so I didn't worry her.

It is very hard to move, but you keep your chin up,and enjoy your lovely new flat, its a shame the Social could not have helped with your little house. But as I said you enjoy your new flat you will feel so much better without the worry!!!

Big Hugs to you and just pace yourself !!

[SootyB]

Good luck, Julie! My Mum and I hit a bit of a situation when my parents divorced, but luckily, I was just finishing Uni, and was able to get a job and get the mortgage in our names, rather than my Mum & Dad's. That was 11 years ago, and we've now finished payments, so I'm saving what I was paying in mortgage for a deposit on a house, as I'm not leaving my Mum in a pickle like you're in now - I'm lucky enough to have the choice, as my job (frustrating as it is) pays me well enough to save for myself.

Hope you get along well in the new flat, and try to focus on the positives, not the negatives, of the move. xx