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hi everyone im sorry i have not posted for a while 5 weeks ago my beloved younger daughter was diagnosed with breast cancer 3 weeks before her wedding we are devastated she immediatly started chemotherapy which she will have for 6 months before her operation the day before her wedding she was rushed to hospital with an infection she was allowed out for 6 hrs to get married i am trying to give as much support to her as possible as i am a fibro sufferer how can i find the strengh to do this i am in constant pain but i must put her first i want to cry every time i see her as i am her chemo partner how am i going to get through the next 5 months i need to keep well for her any tips

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Snowbird I just read ur post and wanted to say how sorry I am to hear about your daughter. Ican only imagine how you feel as I would be totally devastated if it were my daughter. All I can advise is to rest as much as you can,you still need to keep yourself as well as possible. Make sure you are taking your pain meds throughout the day,I'm not sure how you take yours but I usually only take my pain. Meds when the pain gets too bad but I think it times of great stress you would need to take pain meds regularly before the pain gets overwhelming. Another idea might be to keep a journal and write down your feelings just to stop you getting overwhelmed. Of course you can write things down on here,we will all support you. Is her new husband supporting her? You don't have to do this all on your own,take as much help as you can. Have you heard of rescue remedy? It's a flower remedy that's very useful for stressful times,you just pop a couple of drops on your tongue when you feel too stressed or upset. I do hope this has been of some help,please take care of yourself and I hope your daughter is well very soon. Love n hugs xxxxx


thankyou so much for your support my daughters new husband is a great support to as are her 2 daughters 14 & 16 but as you know they all have to work and go to school our whole family are doing everything they can to help as i cannnot no longer work i can be with her on chemo days thankyou again for your kind words


So sorry to hear about your daughter, I hope the treatment works and she can get back to full health. Just being there for your daughter will mean so much to her. Take care and take each day as it comes.xx


thankyou so much for your kind words 2nd chemo tommorow hoping she doesnt get an infection this time we were told it can be life threatening it is so scary i would pray but am finding it very hard to have faith xx


I am so sorry to hear about your daughter and hope she makes a full recovery soon, and my thoughts and prayers are with all of you at this difficult time.

Take care of yourself also

Gentle Hugs

Bonnie Lass


thankyou for your good wishes we are hoping for a full recovery if only she can keep away from catching any new infections while in treatment again thankyou for your support


Hi Snowbird.

So very sorry to hear about your daughter. It must be a very difficult time for you all. Be strong and positive as she will be better eventually and as her mum you will prove yet again that she can always count on you.

Take care of yourself at every opportunity and remember you need to pace yourself through this so that you can cope. Macmillan are great to talk to if you need any support for yourself too.

I will remember you all in my prayers



So sorry to hear about your daughter..hoping that possitive thoughts of her future with her new hubby will pull her through all the treatment and back to good health x


Oh honey not fair! i have no helpful tips on this one other than take it day to day.

Hope you stay strong honey sending lots of positive soft hugs xxxx Rachie


I've been so caught up in my own woes that it made me feel ashamed, reading about your poor daughter. It must be dreadful for all of you. Theres nothing different that I can say, but Just try to stay strong. They say love can move mountains, don't know about that but it certainly will give your daughter a fighting chance!

I wish you all the very best of luck

You'll be in my thoughts & prayers xx


Just read your post, so so sorry, prayers to you and your daughter, your daughter will have good days on those days you rest as much as possible, my friend currently receiving chemo , due her fourth next week , few days after really rough but after that it settles then her daughter , family and friends relax a little as she's feeling a little better for a while, however this is your daughter and it's a different bond but use her good days as your rest days to charge your batteries shel know your there

Lots of love nicki xxxxx


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